In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, we dive deep into how to recover from something that we have been triggered by, whether it’s a certain traumatic event or a particularly hurtful comment thrown at you in the past.

The five steps I’ve put together to work through your emotional triggers are the exact same ones that I personally follow time and time again to free myself whenever something gets under my skin, making me feel sad, angry, disappointed, or frustrated.

Step #1: Become aware of your triggers.

First thing’s first: pinpoint exactly what your emotional triggers are. Once you know what they are, you now have the choice to either stop that train or keep riding it.

Continuing to play those destructive stories over and over in your head only reinforces emotional triggers. It is an extremely empowering moment once you become self-aware and catch your trigger, because you realize that you are now able to break the vicious cycle you’ve constructed in your mind.

Remember that what you feel when you get swept away by that train has nothing to do with the present moment. Rather, it has everything to do with whatever hurt you in the past, perhaps even years and years ago.

Step #2: Forgive yourself for experiencing these destructive feelings.

Forgive yourself for indulging in these low-vibrational feelings; for playing the victim; for experiencing a moment of weakness.

Judging yourself for having those feelings will only fuel the vicious cycle you’re already on. Forgiving yourself, on the other hand, helps you to move on in a peaceful, calm, and loving way.

Step #3: Love the part of yourself that feels rejected and unloved.

When you are being triggered, the questions that I would ask are: “What is the earliest memory of me feeling this way? When did I form this belief? What part of me believes this to be true, and why?”

I guarantee that it’s a memory that you probably don’t even pay all that much attention to because it seems insignificant in the bigger scheme of things; but it has actually left a really deep, lasting impression on you, enough to trigger you over and over and over again.

We need to address the root cause. Trying to change circumstances or the people around you is only patching up the wound; but you need to understand what actually caused that wound in order to begin the process of healing.

Step #4: Once you know what you were aching for in that earliest memory, look for evidence where you are, in fact, already receiving exactly that.

If you’ve always felt unsupported your whole life, look at your immediate family and closest friends and realize that you actually already have people that you can trust and have your back.

The things that we look for in life, such as love, freedom, and money, can be found all around us in so many different ways; but we get blinded to all of these opportunities when we limit our definition of what we really desire. Instagram likes, for example, are nothing compared to the real-life support you receive right now from your loved ones.

Step #5: Clearly state what you desire to attract more of it into your life.

Now that you know you’re already receiving what your heart aches for, even if it’s not in the form you expected, you now have the opportunity to attract more of that desire, and in many different forms.

We can only attract more abundance when we are already finding evidence of abundance in our lives. When you ask the Universe for what you want from a place of lack, all you get is more lack; but if you ask from a place of abundance, the Universe showers ever more abundance.

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