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#50: The only thing you can control is yourself
I share how therapy has helped me throughout adulthood—especially after a tough childhood, trouble regulating my nervous system, anger/reactivity, and taking years to recover from a major breakup. I describe a key lesson a therapist gave me when I complained that people always leave: instead of trying to stop others from leaving, I needed to build resilience for when they do. Over time, after enough romantic breakups, I learned to “roll with the punches,” even creating a podcast episode with 30 tips to survive the post-breakup period. I reflect on focusing on what I can control—my reactions, communication, and conflict resolution—rather than other people’s choices. I’m currently facing a personal challenge and coping differently now (journaling and recording instead of chain smoking), and I end by emphasizing that resilience is powerful and learnable.
00:00 Why I Needed Therapy
01:07 Breakups That Broke Me
02:24 People Always Leave
03:53 Building Resilience
05:30 Control What You Can
07:11 Acceptance and Heartbreak
07:53 Coping in Real Time
09:21 Final Takeaway
*description written with the help of AI*
Content mentioned in this episode:
1. Life Hack Your Break Up podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=0a27179dd40e48b3
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By TorontoUnicornI share how therapy has helped me throughout adulthood—especially after a tough childhood, trouble regulating my nervous system, anger/reactivity, and taking years to recover from a major breakup. I describe a key lesson a therapist gave me when I complained that people always leave: instead of trying to stop others from leaving, I needed to build resilience for when they do. Over time, after enough romantic breakups, I learned to “roll with the punches,” even creating a podcast episode with 30 tips to survive the post-breakup period. I reflect on focusing on what I can control—my reactions, communication, and conflict resolution—rather than other people’s choices. I’m currently facing a personal challenge and coping differently now (journaling and recording instead of chain smoking), and I end by emphasizing that resilience is powerful and learnable.
00:00 Why I Needed Therapy
01:07 Breakups That Broke Me
02:24 People Always Leave
03:53 Building Resilience
05:30 Control What You Can
07:11 Acceptance and Heartbreak
07:53 Coping in Real Time
09:21 Final Takeaway
*description written with the help of AI*
Content mentioned in this episode:
1. Life Hack Your Break Up podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=0a27179dd40e48b3
*****
ALL social media links (YouTube, podcasts, fan page, etc): https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn
*****
Sign up for my email newsletters to stay up-to-date on TorontoUnicorn news, events and swinger lifestyle resources: https://torontounicorn.kit.com/torontounicornemails
*****
Get your free Swinger Lifestyle Starter Kit - learn what to
expect, common mistakes to avoid, and how to walk into a sex-positive space without feeling out of place:
👉https://torontounicorn.kit.com/dpodcast
Ready to go deeper?
Check out my full courses at LevelUpWithTorontoUnicorn.com
*****
DIRECT link to my explicit TorontoUnicorn fan page: https://OnlyFans.com/TorontoUnicorn
BONUS content (behind the scenes, non-explicit) available now on my TorontoUnicorn Patreon page! https://www.patreon.com/c/TorontoUnicorn
My personal website: TorontoUnicorn.com
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Want to own something I wear, use, recommend? Or just see what hilarious and unique products I found worthy of sharing? 🤣 Check out my Amazon storefront! *affiliate links provide me with a small commission*
🇺🇸 Amazon storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn
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