🌈51. Are people really doing the best they can—and if they are, what do we do with the harm they still cause? And is success always growth… or is it sometimes just a distraction from unhealed trauma?

These two questions triggered the bleep out of me this week—and I’m guessing I’m not alone.

In Episode 51 of Your Southern Lesbian, I’m unpacking two ideas that pulled me in opposite directions: one rooted in compassion and boundaries, inspired by Rising Strong by Brené Brown, and another sparked by a quote from coach Brian Yang that seriously challenged how I think about success and trauma.

We talk about:

• Whether “doing your best” actually matters if harm is still happening
• How compassion without boundaries turns into resentment
• A deeply personal family story about my stepfather and what boundaries look like in real life
• Why success isn’t always healing—and when ambition might be avoidance
• What “enough” really means as we head into 2026

There’s humor, Southern rambling, British flight stories, Christmas chaos, and some real talk about trauma, growth, and choosing emotional safety without shutting your heart down.

I don’t have neat answers—but I do have lived experience, curiosity, and questions worth sitting with.

💬 I want to hear from you:

Do you think people are doing the best they can?

And how do you define success?

Drop your thoughts in the comments—and help me name my very chic Christmas gift while you’re at it. 😉

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