This week on Your Southern Lesbian, host Ashley Hydrick dives deep into one of the biggest myths in breakup recovery: the idea that “time heals all wounds.”

If you’ve been replaying your breakup, obsessing over your ex, or waiting for time to magically do the work… this episode is your turning point.

Ashley breaks down:

• What healing actually is — a shift in perspective, not a countdown

• The truth about your shadow side and how it shapes your relationships

• How to stop attracting wound mates and start attracting alignment

• Why chaos can feel like chemistry (and how to tell the difference)

• How your nervous system signals the truth before your mind does

• Why you can’t manifest new love with yesterday’s energy

• How to understand your patterns, triggers, and inner-child wounds

• And the steps to finally evolve beyond your past relationships

Whether you’re a lesbian healing from a breakup, exploring shadow work, navigating queer dating, or rebuilding your self-worth after a painful relationship — this episode gives you tools, perspective, and the community support you didn’t know you needed.

Books mentioned (Amazon affiliate links-I may earn a small commission at zero added cost to you!):

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Ep. 2 WHERE DID ALL THE LESBIANS GO?

"In the early aughts, we had five lesbian bars to hit a week. Where did all the lesbians go now?"

Hey y'all, welcome to the second episode of "Your Southern Lesbian" podcast! In this lively and candid episode, Ashley, a proud Gen X lesbian, dives into the question that has been on everyone's mind: "Where Did All The Lesbians Go?" She reflects on the disappearing lesbian spaces of the early 2000s and discusses the current challenges of dating as a mature lesbian. Ashley explores the decline of lesbian bars, the role of dating apps, and the importance of community-building among lesbians of all ages. This episode is full of humor, nostalgia, and real talk about the ever-changing lesbian culture, with shoutouts to iconic lesbian events like Dinah Shore and thoughts on modern LGBTQIA+ dynamics.

Tune in for laughter, stories, and a passionate call to connect, share, and build community, no matter where you are in life.

Timestamps:

[00:00] - Intro & Welcome to the Podcast

[01:45] - Nostalgia: Lesbian Bars and the Early 2000s Scene

[05:30] - Where Did All the Lesbians Go?

[08:15] - Dating Challenges for Mature Lesbians

[12:00] - Exploring the Apps: Hinge, Match, and More

[17:45] - Chelsea Handler, Straight Women, and Lesbian Porn?

[21:00] - Dinah Shore: The Ultimate Lesbian Spring Break

[25:30] - Building Community & Supporting Each Other

[30:00] - Lesbian Inclusivity: Navigating Trans and LGBTQIA+ Discussions

[35:15] - The Importance of Creating Spaces for Connection

[40:00] - Wrap-Up: Building Community in a Changing World

Key Topics Covered:

Lesbian culture and disappearing social spaces

Dating as a mature lesbian

Use of dating apps for lesbians: the pros and cons

Nostalgia for the vibrant lesbian bar scene of the early 2000s

The importance of community, especially in uncertain times

Inclusivity within the LGBTQIA+ community

How to meet other lesbians outside of bars and apps

Subscribe, like, and comment below! Join the conversation by sharing your thoughts on where all the lesbians have gone, the best dating apps, and how to build stronger lesbian communities.

Feel free to suggest topics for upcoming episodes—this is an interactive podcast, and your voice matters!

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Ep.1 Introducing Your Southern Lesbian Channel, Podcast, and Community. This is meant to be a FUN way to connect to other lesbians both in your own backyard and around the world. We have the technology--why not?? :)

It's also meant to to be a resource for lesbians, their allies, and those questioning, or anyone who feels drawn here.

And Les be real...making and maintaining lesbian friendships and your sense of community gets tougher as we mature and grow wiser (I'm not sayin' older! ;) But what a cool thing to be able to chat in the comments with others like you, with similar interests, but I'd also LOVE for us to do some live zooms together with our #globallesbiancommunity as we gain enough interest and toss out all kinds of topics that are fun and meaningful.

#yallconnect

Fantastic toolkit to get you started setting up a Gay-Straight alliance chapter at your or your kid’s school:

GLSEN:

https://www.glsen.org/support-student-gsas

Link to LGBTQIA mental health resources about coming out or being outed at school:

The Trevor Project:

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/creating-safer-spaces-in-schools-for-lgbtq-youth/

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Main Topics:

Love Lies Bleeding Review:

Directed by Rose Glass.

Stars Kristen Stewart, Katy O'Brien, Ed Harris, and Dave Franco.

Similar vibe to "Bound" with campy macabre and great character building.

Kristen Stewart's performance and the film's representation of lesbians.

Community Feedback

Gratitude for audience engagement and responses.

How do y'all feel about the word "lesbian?"

Personal anecdote about reclaiming the term "lesbian" and its impact.

Lesbian Relationships:

Discussion on femme-femme relationships and societal perceptions.

The issue of lesbian couples being mistaken for sisters.

Challenges faced by femme couples even in LGBTQ+ spaces.

The phenomenon of lesbian couples withdrawing from social circles.

Importance of trust and communication in relationships.

Personal Growth and Therapy:

The host's journey through therapy and self-improvement.

Addressing complex PTSD and the importance of processing feelings.

Resources for listeners who might be going through similar experiences.

Community Events:

Positive experiences at lesbian meet-ups.

Encouraging listeners to join local meet-ups for community and support.

Lesbian Representation in Media:

Critique of lesbian characters and storylines in movies and TV shows.

Desire for positive and sane lesbian characters with happy endings.

Inviting listeners to share their favorite or least favorite representations.

Call to Action:

Engage with the community by commenting on topics discussed.

Share your thoughts on the term "lesbian" and how you prefer to be identified.

Provide feedback on femme-femme relationships and social dynamics.

Recommend books and resources for personal growth and therapy.

Participate in local lesbian meet-ups and share your experiences.

Thank you guys for all your support and engagement!!! We all need it!

Let's keep it going in future episodes! :)

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* Special Thanks:

* Public thank you to Dena Paduano, my co-host of our "Life in the New Normal" podcast, for her support and encouragement.

Main Topic:

* Disturbing Meetup Story of the Week:

* Ashley recounts a disastrous experience at a London Lesbian Meetup for a screening of "Amy”, the Amy Winehouse film.

* Describes feeling ill after eating questionable popcorn, ultimately leading to passing out and vomiting in the theater.

* Emphasizes the importance of attending Meetups despite potential awkwardness, sharing that she still returned and interacted with the group.

Encouragement for Single Mature Lesbians:

* Overcoming Meetup Anxiety:

* Encouragement for viewers to attend Meetups and not let fear hold them back.

* Assurance that everyone experiences awkward moments and that it's part of life.

* Personal Reflections:

* Ashley shares her journey from a party lifestyle to a healthier, more mindful existence.

* Emphasizes personal growth and the importance of aligning actions with values, such as her veganism and ethical choices.

* Interactive Segment:

* Ashley Invites viewers to share their most horrifying Meetup or first date stories.

* Encourages open discussion and connection within the community.

Discussion Topic: Femme and Butch Dynamics:

* Viewer-Suggested Topic:

* Exploration of whether feminine lesbians feel the need to present more masculine to attract partners.

* Questions the dynamics of femme-femme relationships and whether one partner tends to adopt a more masculine role.

Support for Mature Lesbians:

* Community Building:

* Ashley acknowledges the unique challenges faced by single mature lesbians and aims to provide support and encouragement.

* Invites viewers to share their thoughts and experiences to foster a supportive community.

* Final Thoughts:

* Emphasizes the importance of resilience and continuing to engage in social activities despite fears or past negative experiences.

* Encourages ongoing viewer interaction and topic suggestions.

Call to Action:

* Ashley Invites viewers to comment below or send messages with their thoughts, stories, and topic ideas.

* Promises to keep episodes relevant and engaging based on viewer feedback.

Connect with Ashley:

* Subscribe: Don’t forget to subscribe to the channel for more insights and personal stories!

* Follow on Social Media:

* Instagram: @ahydrick

* Tik Tok Interactive Community: @your.southern.lesbian

Thank you for watching! If you enjoyed this episode, please like, comment, and share with your friends. See you in the next episode!

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(Thank You! Heartfelt thanks to all listeners for your beautiful comments and engagement. It keeps me coming back and fuels our community spirit.)

Our little TikTok Lesbian community is blowing up with amazing interactions. If you haven't checked it out yet, head over there! The community is engaging and supportive. :)

TikTok: @your.southern.lesbian

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In this episode, your favorite southern lesbian, Ashley Hydrick, broadcasts live from a kitchen in Windsor, UK. Despite the occasional loud plane flying overhead, she delivers another engaging episode filled with her unique wit, warmth, and southern charm. She kicks off the show by discussing the amazing support and engagement from the community, especially on TikTok. She praises the younger generation's involvement, tech savviness, and emotional maturity.

BBC's "I Kissed a Girl": A shout-out to the newest lesbian-centered BBC show, sparking conversation about how today's young lesbians are navigating relationships.

She also dives into her love of lesbian romance novels, discussing her favorites like Jericho by Anne McMan and The Soho Loft Series by Melissa Brayden. She invites listeners to share their favorite lesbian romance books as well.

It's almost Pride Season! While it's a time for celebration with friends and public parades, let's not forget the historical significance.

Quick history: Homosexuality was considered a mental disorder until 1973, changed due to protests post-Stonewall riots.

Pride began as a riot, a reminder of our journey and a chance to desensitize the world to our presence and rights.

Safety Tips: Be aware of your surroundings, know where officers are, and watch out for pickpockets. Enjoy, but stay safe!

From heartfelt reflections on Pride to humorous musings on TikTok trends, lesbian dating apps, and romance novels, this episode has something for everyone.

Fun fact: I often find myself deep-diving into comment sections late at night to see who's who! (Maybe also doin’ a little wife-searchin’!)

Timestamps:

0:00 - 2:00: Introduction and shoutout to listeners

2:01 - 8:45: TikTok lesbian community, tech challenges, and TikTok trends

8:46 - 12:35: Pride reflections, history, and safety tips for Pride events

12:36 - 18:00: Review of the BBC show I Kissed a Girl

18:01 - 22:00: Lesbian romance novels discussion and recommendations

22:01 - 24:30: Wrap-up and shoutouts to listeners

LESBIAN BOOKS MENTIONED:

Jericho by Anne McMan

The Soho Loft Series by Melissa Brayden

Born Out of Wedlock by Lynn Gardner

Behind the Green Curtain by Riley LaChe

Waiting in the Wings by Melissa Brayden

Turbulence by E.J. Noyes

(Special shoutout to Abby Craden, a fantastic narrator in the genre!)

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Ep 6: Embracing the Fear: Finding Love and Connection as Mature Lesbians with Solange Pollack, LMFT

Welcome back, y'all! In this heartfelt episode of "Your Southern Lesbian," host Ashley Hydrick reconnects with her longtime friend and licensed marriage family therapist, Solange Pollack, LMFT. Together, they dive deep into the unique challenges and opportunities faced by mature lesbians as they navigate relationships, community, and self-growth. Solange shares her expert insights on overcoming fear, understanding trauma, and practicing mindfulness to foster healthier connections. Tune in for an empowering conversation about embracing your past, owning your present, and looking forward to a brighter future.

Book a therapy session with Solange:

Available both in-person (Los Angeles) and online

(424) 401-2364

Fee schedule & email:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/solange-pollack-therapy--los-angeles-ca/1062833

Follow Solange on Instagram: solangepollacktherapy

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In Episode 8, Ashley takes you to a Southern back porch—birdsong, sweat, and all—to talk about what’s new in the lesbian world and what’s stirring in our hearts. From Maren Morris stepping into her queer truth to Meryl Streep’s daughter Louisa Jacobson coming out, Ashley shares the joy of “new and notable lesbians” making headlines.

She also dives into a listener question on sapiosexuality, breaking down what it really means to be attracted to intelligence—and how that plays out in lesbian dating. Ashley gets real about the challenges of finding community in the South, facing fears of putting yourself out there, and why sometimes the bravest thing is simply showing up.

Finally, she opens up about navigating old family triggers, healing childhood wounds, and learning how to regulate your nervous system in tough moments. Through humor, honesty, and a little sweat, Ashley reminds us that we can rewrite old patterns with compassion—and that community, love, and hope are always worth the effort.

✨ Highlights:

• Maren Morris & Louisa Jacobson: new queer voices to celebrate.
• What sapiosexuality really means—and why apps make dating harder for some.
• The fear (and necessity) of seeking community, especially in conservative areas.
• Facing old family patterns with compassion and breaking the cycle.

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Hey y'all! It's your Southern Lesbian, Ashley Hydrick, coming to you from my car in the parking lot of Goodwill. Desperate times call for desperate measures, but I just had to check in with you all.

In this special Pride Month episode, I share a bit about my recent family vacation in the South (and the challenges of finding a quiet spot to record!)

We dive into some of the exciting things happening in lesbian pop culture right now, with shoutouts to amazing artists like Billie Eilish, Chappell Roan, Fletcher, Renee Rapp, Kehlani (who was pointed out after publish date!) and the much-missed King Princess.

We'll also chat about the hilarious show Hacks and its fantastic representation of the lesbian community. Plus, I’ll share some tips on finding and building community, whether you're in a bustling city or a small town.

And for my solo travelers out there, I encourage you to take the plunge and enjoy the empowering experience of a solo vacation. Whether you're dining alone, visiting a museum, or exploring a new city, there’s so much to gain from stepping out of your comfort zone.

Happy Pride Month to all my friends in London and around the world! Let's celebrate our beautiful community and continue to support and uplift each other. Thank you for your wonderful comments and messages—they mean the world to me.

Stay brave, stay proud, and I'll see y'all next time!

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Welcome back, y’all! In Episode 13 of Your Southern Lesbian, Ashley talks about the film Driveaway Dolls (no, not Driveway Dolls as she hilariously mentioned last week) and gives her take on this quirky dark comedy with some lesbian action. Directed by Ethan Coen and co-written by wife (and lesbian!) Tricia Cooke, Ashley dives into the representation (or lack thereof) of lesbians in film today and why it's so important to have real lesbian voices both in front of and behind the camera.

She also throws out the idea of doing a watch party for the film and seeks your input on how to make it happen—because community is key, y’all! Plus, she gets real about feeling out of control in life, sharing some personal experiences and offering advice on how to reclaim your own sense of direction.

This week’s deep dive includes some powerful thoughts on staying positive in tough times and embracing the uncomfortable, with tips on tapping into what lights you up. Ashley reminds us all to plan for joy and shares how we can take control by making small, intentional moves toward what we truly want.

Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments—Ashley loves hearing from you all!

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