In this episode, we dive into one of the most misunderstood emotions mothers experience: anger. If you've ever felt guilty about your rage, tried to suppress your irritation, or wondered why you sometimes feel like screaming, this episode will completely reframe how you see and work with your anger. Drawing from the viral "Primal Mom Scream" experience, we explore why anger isn't something to fix or hide - it's actually one of your greatest sources of wisdom and guidance.

Key Points

• The biology behind the famous "Primal Mom Scream" and why it went viral globally during COVID
• How screaming and expressing anger creates natural nervous system regulation through sympathetic charge and release
• Why the 90-second rule of emotions means we can move through anger when we don't block it
• The community aspect of anger expression - how co-regulation makes it safe to feel what we've repressed
• Understanding anger as information and guidance rather than something "bad" or unacceptable
• How blocked anger shows up in your body through illness, digestive issues, and sleep disruption
• The difference between helpful inner voices (anger) and unhelpful ones (anxiety, critic, shame)
• Why anger is an arrow pointing toward where boundaries or change are needed in your life

The Gift of Anger

• All emotions carry information, but anger specifically signals where boundaries are needed
• When you feel chronically angry about bedtime routines, morning responsibilities, or relationship dynamics - pay attention
• This unsettledness in your body is pointing to gold in terms of what you need to advocate for
• Learning to discern which inner voices to listen to versus outdated programming to release

Cyclical Living Connection

• How the luteal phase (pre-menstrual time) naturally heightens irritation and anger
• Why this isn't PMS to dismiss - it's laser clarity on what needs to change
• Using your cycle's wisdom: luteal phase for identifying what's not working, other phases for taking action
• The "irritated squirrel" phase as a signal to tune into what your anger is telling you
• For non-cycling bodies: using moon phases or seasons (summer as the equivalent building energy)

Quick Integration Practices

• When you feel angry, pause and ask: "What information do you have for me?"
• Instead of suppressing the scream, find safe ways to express it (pillow, car, nature)
• Notice patterns in what consistently triggers your anger - these are your boundary signals
• Practice seeing anger as wise guidance rather than something to fix or hide

Quotes "The body will body" - your natural impulse to scream or express anger is healthy and normal "Anger is an arrow to point towards where in your life or relationships change or boundary is needed" "We don't use our emotions, we don't tune into our body and see it as the gold and the insight and the wisdom that it is"

Resources Mentioned

• Nourish retreat - a space to process emotions in community safety: https://theschoolofmom.com/nourish 
• Radical Flourishing program for more intimate group support: https://cal.com/theschoolofmom/breakthrough-call 
• Previous episodes on nervous system understanding and inner voice work

What's Coming Next: 

Continue exploring how to work with your body's wisdom and create the changes your anger is pointing toward, rather than staying stuck in cycles of suppression and shame.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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