Mothering Ourselves Mindfully

This episode is about something that keeps coming up with women joining Rewire: “I don’t know which pattern to choose.” That question is a pattern too. In this episode I look at how the way we approach the idea of rewiring can show us what most needs rewiring: the need to get it right, self-doubt, time scarcity, money rules, and the fear that we won’t follow through. Then I ask a bigger question. What are you rewiring for?

Key Points

• Why “What’s the right pattern to pick?” is itself one of the most important patterns to notice
• Some of the most common patterns women are bringing to Rewire: anxiety, self-criticism, resisting this stage of life, and avoiding big emotions
• How the “am I doing it right?” loop spreads into motherhood, parenting, perimenopause, and life as a whole
• How even reading about a program can show you your patterns around time, money, and self-trust
• “It’s not about the content, it’s about the process”: what Lynn Lyons’ teaching on anxiety means for rewiring any pattern
• Why Rewire is not for beginners. It’s a master’s-level, roll-your-sleeves-up space for women who already have some self-awareness
• The rare kind of community where women skip the small talk and go straight to real, soul-level conversation
• The “I’ll do it later” pattern: is now really a bad time, or is there never a good time to put yourself first?
• What I’m rewiring in real time: moving from worst-case thinking toward expecting the best possible outcome
• Why I’d secretly call the program “Rewire for Flourishing,” and how flourishing means feeling all of it, not being happy all the time
• The electrical metaphor: clearing out old, tangled wiring so you can put in a new circuit
• “Consider it done”: picturing yourself on the other side of your rewiring

Quotes

“If we zoom out and look at ourselves contemplating the pattern we’re going to pick, that might be the most important pattern of all.”

“It’s not about the content, it’s about the process. Anxiety will always find something to be anxious about, because it’s a pattern in you.”

“Is it because now really isn’t a good time, or is it because there’s never a good time to put yourself first?”

“Flourish does not mean you’re happy all the time. Flourish means you’re angry and you’re sad, but you’re feeling it, you’re trusting it, and you’re embracing your full experience as a human being.”

“What if this is the best thing I ever did? What if I get exactly what I need out of it?”

“Consider it done. Your rewiring is inevitable, because you’re taking steps to be around people who are in process with you.”

Resources Mentioned

• REWIRE: https://theschoolofmom.com/rewire
• Book a call to see if Rewire is the right fit: https://paperbell.me/theschoolofmom
• Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahlowellharmon/
• Lynn Lyons’ work on anxiety, “It’s not about the content, it’s about the process” (also discussed in my earlier anxiety episode): https://www.lynnlyons.com/
• Send Sarah your voice note right here! https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

What’s Coming Next

Rewire is starting soon. Whether you join this round or a later one, notice what comes up for you as you think about it, and get curious about the pattern behind it.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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Money is rarely just about money. In the final episode of the Let's REWIRE series, after time, our bodies and anxiety, we're taking on one of the most loaded patterns of all. I share why I believe the mother wound and the money wound are the same wound, why your "money mindset" actually starts in your body, and why knowing a belief isn't the same as changing it. We look at the money messages you inherited, how they're tied to your earliest experiences of needing and receiving, and what relationship with money you want to model for your daughter.

Key Points

• What comes up in your body when you think about spending, receiving, charging for your work, or buying something just because you want it
• Why money brings up safety, worth, scarcity, control, deserving and trust all at once
• Why your money mindset comes from your body set, meaning what's happening in your nervous system
• The mother wound and the money wound: how your first caregiving relationship shaped what you expect around needs, receiving, dependence and worthiness
• Reflection questions: Was it safe to need something? Could you receive without earning it? Did you have to be easy, helpful or low-maintenance to be cared for?
• The money phrases you grew up with ("Money doesn't grow on trees," "Don't depend on anyone financially") and the patterns you watched play out
• The collective piece: women haven't been allowed their own bank accounts for very long, so this patterning runs through our lineages and through women as a whole
• Why you can know you can afford something and still feel unsafe spending it
• The question to ask next: What relationship with money do I want to practice, and to model for my daughter?
• How REWIRE touches your relationship with money even if money isn't the pattern you bring, because healing one pattern affects the whole nervous system

Quotes

"Money is rarely just about money."

"Our mindset comes from our body set."

"I often say that the mother wound is synonymous with the money wound."

"You can logically know that you can afford something, but your body feels unsafe spending it."

"Knowing the money belief isn't the same as changing the pattern."

"If it's not one thing, it's your mother."

"The whole world would change if women, daughters, mothers everywhere could rewire their relationship with money."

Resources Mentioned

• REWIRE: What You Keep Repeating, a seven-week group program. Enrollment is open through October 15th, and we start October 27th: https://theschoolofmom.com/rewire
• Catch up on the full Let's REWIRE series: time, the body, and anxiety
• Send Sarah your voice note right here! https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

What's Coming Next

That wraps the Let's REWIRE series. If something in these four episodes hit home, this is your invitation to join us inside REWIRE before doors close on October 15th.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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In the third episode of our Let's REWIRE series, I'm taking on the loaded topic of our relationship with our bodies. I'm recording on day two of my cycle, low energy and all, and I start by asking you to check your "relationship status" with your body. Then I look at how that status got programmed: through what our mothers modeled, the moments that stuck with us, and a culture with very loud opinions about women's bodies. I share parts of my own story, from my grandmother's first words at the door to being sent to ride the bike at gymnastics. I also talk about how I've rewired my way to a relationship built on respect, and why what we model for our daughters matters far more than anything we say.

Key Points

• A three-part reflection to start: What's your current relationship status with your body? What relationship do you want your daughter to have with hers? And what was modeled for you in your mom's relationship with her body?
• Why so few mothers I meet describe their relationship with their body as healthy. It's much more often "complicated," critical, frustrated or resistant.
• How your relationship with your body today comes from programming you took in as a kid, before you had any say in it
• My story: my grandmother greeting me with "Oh, you're fat," being one of two girls made to ride the bike after competitive gymnastics practice, and years of journals full of discomfort in my own skin
• Where I am now at 44, in perimenopause and post-kids: a relationship built on respect, trust and appreciation, and how that came from rewiring
• Why our kids co-regulate to what we embody. My physical reaction when my girls ask "Mom, are you pregnant?" says more than my words ever could.
• Why the body is our only guaranteed, forever home, and how that inspired the name change from the School of MOM to the Home of MOM
• The period "talk" I got (a box of Tampax and a closed door), and how learning about cyclical living changed how I see the female body
• Being honest about limits: even with the healthiest modeling at home, culture and social media will still reach our kids. We can still make what they see at home the stronger programming.
• The dual process of REWIRE: we rewire away from the old pattern and rewire for respect, trust, love, appreciation and confidence

Quotes

"Your relationship with your body today is a product of that programming that has been taught to you back when there was no consent available to you."

"This pervasive programming around self-hate, self-criticism, resistance with our bodies, not trusting them, judging them, not feeling safe in them is reprogrammable."

"My body and what I model and what I embody is going to be… significantly louder than anything that comes out of my mouth."

"It is the only guaranteed relationship we have while we are alive on this planet. It is our only and forever home."

"We are given this body… What we do have choice with is how we decide to be in relationship with it."

"It is the biggest honor of my lifetime to rewire my relationship with my body, not only for me, but for the lineage of my family."

Resources Mentioned

• Learn more about REWIRE: https://theschoolofmom.com/rewire
• Earlier Let's REWIRE episodes: our relationship with time and our relationship with anxiety
• Previous episodes on cyclical living: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0p0KL9s8pTo2OkDmgTLewy?si=175813f711724c5f or APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/18-embracing-your-timeline-not-the-calendars/id1771757923?i=1000682124913
• Send me a voice note: Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom
• Get on our WAITLIST to hear what's changed with our upcoming program: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Self-awareness Trap: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap
• Not sure where to start? Take the Discover Your Dominant Inner Voice Quiz: https://theschoolofmom.com/quiz

What's Coming Next

In the next (and likely final) episode of the Let's REWIRE series, we're diving into our relationship with money.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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In this second episode of the Let's REWIRE miniseries, I'm talking about one of my favorite topics: anxiety. What if anxiety isn't the enemy? I explain why we don't want to get rid of anxiety, why I actually worry more about people who have none, and how to tell the difference between anxiety that keeps you safe and anxiety that keeps you from living. I also share the Yale study that shows how much our own relationship with anxiety shapes our kids, a personal story about the dead trees in our yard, and the timely message about playfulness from an ancestor session that changed how I think about rumination.

Key Points

• The anxiety pattern: thought loops, catastrophizing, rumination, and trying to get a certainty we'll probably never get
• Why anxiety thinks it's being responsible, and thinks you're irresponsible if you don't play out every outcome
• Anxiety is here on purpose. We wouldn't be alive without our ancestors' anxiety
• Why I'm done arguing about whether anxiety is "technically" an emotion, because it's happening in our bodies either way
• How anxiety lives in the sympathetic nervous system, and why staying stuck there wears us down
• The close relationship between anxiety, perfectionism, and the shame underneath them
• "We work locally and we act globally": when we work with one pattern, we work with many
• You're not causing your daughter's anxiety. She was born with a nervous system. What you model is how you relate to it
• The Yale SPACE study: training only the parents worked just as well as CBT for the anxious child
• Anxiety thrives on avoidance, and why over-accommodating our kids' anxiety backfires
• Anxiety means you care about something. Where is it pointing you?
• Turning anxiety into purpose and action (like finally cutting down the dead branches over our yard)
• The two parts of the REWIRE process: getting to know and tending the pattern, and strengthening what lives on the other side of it
• Why playfulness lives in a state where anxiety can't, and why we turn up the volume on one and turn down the other

Quotes

"What if anxiety isn't the enemy?"

"We want to have enough anxiety online to keep us alive, but not to keep us from living."

"You are not causing your daughter's anxiety, because she was born with a nervous system. Don't give yourself that much credit, honestly."

"Helping our children handle their anxiety differently begins with changing what we do when their anxiety activates us."

"I worry more about the people that have no anxiety."

"When you awaken playfulness, the ruminating will fall away."

"The goal isn't to eradicate anxiety. It is to understand the role anxiety plays, where it lives in your nervous system, and how we can use it for good."

Resources Mentioned

• REWIRE: What You Keep Repeating, my seven-week program starting in late October 2026: https://theschoolofmom.com/rewire
• Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons: https://www.lynnlyons.com/anxious-kids-child-anxiety/
• The Yale SPACE study (Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions): https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/ocd-treatment-guide/space/
• Yoga Tune Up therapy balls (part of the REWIRE welcome gift)
• Episode 102: Let's REWIRE... Time: SPOTIFY or APPLE Podcasts
• Send me a voice note: Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom
• Get on our WAITLIST to hear what's changed with our upcoming program: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Self-awareness Trap: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap
• Not sure where to start? Take the Discover Your Dominant Inner Voice Quiz: https://theschoolofmom.com/quiz

What's Coming Next

The Let's REWIRE miniseries continues with our relationship with our bodies.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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“I don't have time. There's never enough time. I'm always behind.”

If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. I'm kicking off a new podcast miniseries called Let's Rewire, where we're digging into the hot-button patterns so many of us as mothers are desperate to change — starting with the big one: time.

This series is launching right alongside open enrollment for the very first cohort of REWIRE, our seven-week life lab designed to help you close the gap between the mom you know you want to be and actually being her. Because here's the truth I keep coming back to — our daughters aren't inheriting our intentions. They're not inheriting what we know we should do or wish we could do. They're inheriting what we model and embody. And so much of that modeling happens below the level of words.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why time is at the forefront of almost every conversation I have with moms — and why "I don't have time" is so often really about anxiety, resentment, or self-abandonment in disguise
• The research on communication that stopped me in my tracks: 55% of our impact is body language, 38% is tone, and only 7% is actually our words — which means our nervous system state is doing most of the talking, especially with our kids
• The difference between a perceived lack of time and a real lack of time, and why looking at your screen time is such an uncomfortable (and clarifying) place to start
• My own inner "Polly" — my type-A inner planner — and how getting to know the parts of us that manage time can shift us out of victimhood and into ownership
• Why "when I slow down, time slows down" isn't just a nice line, and how our worth-through-busyness programming keeps us stuck
• What actually happens when women are given a full free day (spoiler: it's rarely peaceful at first) and what that reveals about our relationship with rest
• How to start rewiring this pattern — by turning toward what your nervous system is asking for, instead of trying to white-knuckle your way to more hours

A line I keep coming back to: "Our nervous system creates the lens in which we see the world." Same calendar, same to-do list — completely different experience depending on the state we're viewing it from.

If you're feeling time scarcity on the daily, I want you to bring that pattern into Rewire with us. That's exactly what this seven-week life lab is for.

Resources Mentioned

• Learn more and enroll HERE: https://theschoolofmom.com/rewire-waitlist
• Send me a voice note: Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom
• Get on our WAITLIST to hear what's changed with our upcoming program: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Self-awareness Trap: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap
• Not sure where to start? Take the Discover Your Dominant Inner Voice Quiz: https://theschoolofmom.com/quiz

What's Coming Next

Next up in the "Let's REWIRE" miniseries, we'll dig into another hot pattern moms bring into this work. If time scarcity is a pattern that's alive for you right now, that's exactly what we want you to bring into the Life Lab — theschoolofmom.com/rewire. The time is now.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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In this episode, I'm finally ready to talk about the big thing that's been cooking behind the scenes: our waitlist doors for REWIRE are opening, and I'm walking you through exactly what this seven-week life lab is and why it's the next evolution of our Mothering Ourselves Mindfully work. I share the backstory on how this program came to be, why insight alone never changes anything, and how you can bring your own pattern — whatever it is — into this process with us starting October 27th.

Key Points

• The backstory: this program started as a general Mothering Ourselves Mindfully waitlist and has evolved into REWIRE, a seven-week life lab, as part of the shift from the School of MOM to the Home of MOM
• Why the only thing we can actually change right now, in the middle of so much collective overwhelm, is ourselves
• Why REWIRE is a "life lab" and not another course to half-consume — closing the gap between insight and integration
• How to pick one pattern to bring to the program — body image, anxious rumination, exhaustion and not resting, reactivity with a partner, defensiveness with a mother or mother-in-law, the "A+ student" need to do it perfectly
• The idea of content vs. process (borrowed from therapist Lynn Lyons): it doesn't matter what your specific pattern is, because the process of rewiring is the same for all of us
• Why this work happens in the body and nervous system first, not just cognitively — and why talking about triggers isn't the same as rewiring them in real time
• What the seven weeks actually look like: one live call a week (Tuesdays at 1pm Eastern, starting October 27th) plus an ongoing community space between calls
• Waitlist bonuses: $100 off, plus two sets of yoga tune-up therapy balls and a cell phone sleeping bag for everyone who joins the waitlist before doors open to the general community

Quotes

"We cannot give out what we can't give in."

"The only thing that we know we can change is ourselves."

"Insight is not the same as integration and action."

"Your life is your laboratory."

"When you learn this skill... you have the skill to be able to apply it to any other pattern."

Resources Mentioned

• Join the REWIRE waitlist for $100 off + a bonus cell phone sleeping bag: https://theschoolofmom.com/rewire-waitlist
• FAQs on the REWIRE page — including "can I actually change a lifelong pattern in seven weeks?" and "what kind of pattern should I bring?"
• REWIRE begins Tuesday, October 27th, weekly at 1pm Eastern
• Send me a voice note: Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom
• Get on our WAITLIST to hear what's changed with our upcoming program: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Self-awareness Trap: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap

What's Coming Next

Over the next few weeks I'll be sharing more about REWIRE before doors open to the wider community. If you're on the fence, get on the waitlist now to lock in the lowest price this program will ever be and grab your welcome gift before everyone else gets access.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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Here we are … at 100 episodes of Mothering Ourselves Mindfully! In this milestone episode, I'm sharing the real story of how I got here: one podcast at a time, no batching, no big master plan, just showing up week after week. I dig into why we convince ourselves something's too daunting to start, why perfectionism keeps so many of us stuck, and what actually got me from zero to 100. Plus, I'm sharing why I ditched the "everyone else's podcast" formula, what's changing with our upcoming program, and why community — not willpower — is the real key to consistency.

Key Points

• Why reaching 100 episodes never felt possible when I thought about it as "100" — I only ever had to do one
• The trap of needing to do things to the Nth degree or not at all, and how that perfectionism keeps us from starting
• Letting go of doing things "the way everyone else does them" — ditching the polished interview format for real, unedited walks in the woods
• Two reasons fear kept me from starting a podcast in the first place: not wanting to add to mom overwhelm, and not wanting to sound like everyone else
• Why community and accountability — not motivation alone — are what actually sustain change (the "plank club" story)
• An invitation to start with just one: one minute, one day a week, made fun and brought into community
• A heads-up that our upcoming program has evolved since it was first announced — details coming soon

Quotes

• "I never got to 100 without just doing one."
• "Set the bar so low you can trip over it. Just one."
• "It's not just me. It's not about me, it's about us."

Resources Mentioned

• Send me a voice note: Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom
• Get on our WAITLIST to hear what's changed with our upcoming program: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Self-awareness Trap: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap

What's Coming Next

As we head into the new school year, I'll be recording a series of episodes on exactly what we're opening the doors to here in the Home of Mothering Ourselves Mindfully — so stay tuned.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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I recorded this episode in real time, mid-struggle with a whole lot of pain following a tooth extraction that turned into a bigger deal than expected. What went down with my aunt around my pain led to this unscripted look at what happens when someone else steps in with "maternal assertiveness" - and how it’s so important for all women/daughters, no matter how old we are.

In This Episode

• The backstory: a routine tooth extraction, a family trip, and pain that got worse instead of better
• What happened when Sarah's aunt and uncle stepped in — and why it hit so differently than she expected
• Fierce compassion: the "mama bear" side of compassion, and why it matters as much as the tender side
• The mother bucket — the container only your mom was ever supposed to fill, and what happens when she can't
• How we unconsciously try to fill that hole (numbing, scrolling, overworking, other people) — and the one person who can actually fill it
• Why receiving maternal assertiveness from unexpected sources — an aunt, a friend, even a stranger on a plane — is allowed, and healing
• A full-circle moment with her daughter, who needed to be truly heard in her own pain
• An invitation: if you carry this gaping hole, you are not alone — and there are ways to start filling it

Quotable Moments

"There's two sides of compassion. There's tender and there's fierce. Tender is the loving, nurturing type of compassion. Fierce is that more mama bear, like, 'Uh-uh. Nope. Like, this is not okay. You need to get help.'"

"That just because we may not have a mother who is capable, able, available to offer that for us doesn't mean that we still, A, don't need it, and B, can't get it."

"The next best person to provide that, to fill that mothering bucket, is you. It is you."

Mentioned in This Episode

• Aunt Melissa — the "fierce compassion" presence at the center of this episode
• Jamie and Emily from NAPS / Nurture by NAPS — the prenatal and postpartum support team Sarah credits for teaching her assertiveness years ago: https://www.nurturebynaps.com/

Connect With Sarah

• Self-awareness Trap: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap
• Join the WAITLIST: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Send Sarah a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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In this episode, I'm sharing highlights from a recent interview I did on the Can We Say That Out Loud podcast with Kara and Greer — a conversation that went deep into estrangement, grief, and the mother-daughter relationship. If you have a strained or nonexistent relationship with your mom, or you're stuck waiting for her to become someone she may never be, this one is for you. I unpack why grieving a mother who's still alive is one of the most necessary and overlooked steps in mothering yourself, and I share a deeply personal hypnotherapy story I've never fully told before.

Key Points

• Why an unrealistic "hope cycle" — waiting for your mom to change — keeps you stuck in resentment, frustration, and unmet needs
• The difference between accepting the mother you have and grieving the mother you don't, even while she's still living
• How releasing that hope creates space to awaken your own inner "flourished mother"
• Why every mother was a daughter first, and remains a "forever daughter" no matter her age
• Unlearning the belief that worthiness has to be earned
• A personal story from a pivotal hypnotherapy session on releasing my own mom from a role she couldn't fulfill
• The three layers of why this grief work matters: escaping the hope cycle, becoming your own mother, and modeling this for your daughter
• An update on the upcoming program (formerly Mothering Ourselves Mindfully) launching this fall, and our transition from The School of Mom to The Home of Mom

Quotes

"Grieving a mother who is still alive is so powerful and potent and necessary for so many of us."

"Before she was a mom, she was a daughter, and she's a forever daughter."

"We are actively rewiring the blueprint."

Resources Mentioned

• Listen to the full interview on the Can We Say That Out Loud podcast with Kara and Greer: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6R9ZweGohK65o8MVVDf880?si=fO9ukXnrStuIt1Q4unGGig
• Join the waitlist: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• The Self-Awareness Trap — free audio resource: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap
• Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

What's Coming Next

More on the new program taking shape this fall — join the waitlist to be the first to hear as details unfold.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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Recorded mid-vacation on the last leg of our family road trip — Maine to New Hampshire to Lake George — this episode is a fresh-off-the-trail reflection on the two-day, 11-mile hike up Mount Washington my family and I just completed, totally green and totally underprepared on the research front. What I really want to talk about isn't the hike itself, but what made it work: my husband and I believing, from the start, that our kids could do it. That belief becomes the thread connecting this hike to two other places I've had to practice it — sleep training my first daughter and the early, rocky years of my marriage — and the invitation is the same across all three: where in your life are you one foot (or two feet) out the door on an outcome you actually want?

Key Points

• The backstory: an 11-mile, two-day hike up Mount Washington, booked with minimal research, based on "if their kids could do it, ours can too"
• What was actually foundational to the day's success wasn't fitness or weather — it was belief
• How belief changes your nervous system state, which changes your feelings, your tone, your posture, and how the people around you co-regulate to you
• The sleep training parallel: believing your child is capable changes your own posturing, even when it's still hard
• The marriage parallel: how couples therapy and the Gottman work reframed the idea that you have to be "all in" for it to work
• The moment on the trail Sarah almost gave in to doubt — and what pulled her back
• Applying this to manifestation: believing an outcome is possible vs. believing you're worthy of it
• The engagement ring story — what happened when Sarah almost talked herself out of wanting something because she didn't feel worthy of it
• An older woman's blunt wisdom on a plane: "There is no such thing as too much bling"
• The invitation: practice believing an outcome is inevitable, in parenting, in relationships, and in what you desire for yourself

Quotes

• "Whether you believe you can or you can't, you're right."
• "It changes your nervous system state, which changes the feelings, which changes the thoughts, which changes how you show up."
• "We have to turn up the dial on the voice, the belief, that actually it will work out, and it is possible."
• "Girl, there is no such thing as too much bling. You wear that ring and you wear it proud."

Resources Mentioned

• The Self-Awareness Trap — free audio resource: https://theschoolofmom.com/trap
• Community waitlist — mentioned as the place I "roll up my sleeves" with this work daily: https://theschoolofmom.com/waitlist
• Discover Your Dominant Inner Voice Quiz: https://theschoolofmom.com/quiz
• Send Sarah your voice note right HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

What's Coming Next

Sarah returns to her regular routine next week and leaves listeners with a question to sit with: where are you not fully believing in an outcome you want — for your kids, your relationship, or yourself — and what would it look like to turn the dial up on that belief?

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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