Mothering Ourselves Mindfully

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  • 90. When Mother’s Day Is a Trigger (and Why That’s Not a Bad Thing)

    Mother's Day stirs up something different in all of us - warmth, grief, indifference, or something in between. In this episode, we get real about what Mother’s Day can bring up, and why we can still celebrate all of it, and why — counterintuitively — having a strained or non-existent relationship with your mom might actually be your greatest gift. This is a Mother's Day episode for every kind of mother, every kind of daughter, and every woman doing the inner work to claim a new level of worthiness.

    Key Points

    • Why Mother's Day triggers such a wide spectrum of feelings — and why all of them deserve to be honored
    • A celebration of "the apples" — women in the School of MOM community whose strained or non-existent relationship with their mother is actually their biggest doorway to healing
    • How the relationship we have with our mothers (for better or for worse) is foundational to our self-worth — and why self-worth is at the nucleus of everything we desire
    • The connection between your subconscious sense of worthiness and your ability to receive, desire, and expand what you think is possible for your life
    • Sarah's personal journey with her own mom — and the shift from "I would give all this up for a healthy mom" to genuine gratitude for the doorway her mom became
    • An introduction to Radical Flourishing — Sarah's most intimate support container — and why doors are opening at the end of May
    • The question that guides the work: How good can it get?

    Quotes

    "The trigger is the gift. What is on the other side of that is really claiming what you desire — but more than that, it is claiming new levels of what you desire to unfold."

    "If you desire something in your life but your subconscious doesn't think you are worthy of it, it is going to be nearly impossible for that thing to come to fruition."

    "I would never be where I'm at today in terms of my ability to meet and tend to and love and mother all parts of myself mindfully — if it weren't for the mother that I have."

    "Let's all collectively decide to step into a new level of worthiness and self-worth — no matter what our relationship is with our mom."

    Resources Mentioned

    • Episode 89 — Grieving a mother who is still alive: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4kP528ObM87oS9uZhHQ9bH?si=pkUYRBr5QoiL8QOiYZ1OBA or APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/89-the-grief-for-a-mother-whos-still-alive/id1771757923?i=1000763998127
    • Radical Flourishing — Sarah's most intimate support group (small group + one-on-one + in-person retreats). Doors open end of May — limited space. DM Sarah or get on the newsletter to be notified.: https://theschoolofmom.com/radical
    • Flourished Mother Map: https://theschoolofmom.com/map
    • Newsletter: https://theschoolofmom.com/newsletter

    What's Coming Next

    However Mother's Day lands for you this year — with joy, grief, or something messier — you belong here. The school is a place where all of it is welcome, and where the healing happens in community. Reach out, get on the list, and keep going.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    19 min
  • 89. The grief for a mother who's still alive

    Mother's Day is coming — and for some of us, it lands with a kind of grief that's almost impossible to explain. This episode was inspired by a deeply moving session with our Untethered alum group: a community of women navigating dysfunctional or estranged relationships with their moms. If you're a mom who has a hard relationship with your mom, this one's for you — and it might be the most important thing you share this season.

    Key Points

    • What it means to be an "Apple" — and why having a space where you don't have to explain yourself is everything
    • The bucket that only your mother can fill (unconditional witnessing, love, and acceptance) — and what to do when she can't
    • Why even the most well-meaning partners often make it worse — and what to ask for from the people in your life instead
    • Why the School of MOM community exists: to be the circle where you are deeply seen, without explanation
    • The two ends of the spectrum: numbing/compartmentalizing vs. fully insourcing your own mothering — and what to do when you're somewhere in the middle
    • The first practice to reach for in a hard moment: the mindfulness of struggle ("This is really hard" + hand on heart)
    • Introducing FMF — Feel My Feelings — and why carving out intentional time to be with your feelings (not alone) is the practice
    • The power of non-human resources: trees, rocks, bodies of water, candles, pets — as steady companions in your FMF moments
    • How naming the struggle brings your prefrontal cortex online and opens the door to the nervous system's safety and connection state
    • An announcement: Sarah is opening a rare one-on-one coaching spot for a mom of daughters who is ready to close the gap between knowing and embodying

    Quotes

    "I am honestly ready for my mom to die — and all I want is my mom. And there's not a lot of groups where you can say something like that and people are nodding their heads."

    "Your relationship with your mom is so foundational, so profoundly foundational to everything in your life — how you mother, how you relate to yourself. It creeps in."

    "The next best resource, ultimately, is you — to learn how to insource what you are seeking from your mom."

    "This is really hard. Hand on heart. This is hard. That's the first practice."

    "What we practice, we get good at."

    Resources Mentioned

    • Untethered alum community — for women with dysfunctional or estranged mother relationships: https://theschoolofmom.com/untetheredwaitlist
    • Send Sarah a voice note
    • Flourished Mother MAP: https://theschoolofmom.com/map
    • One-on-one coaching inquiry: http://theschoolofmom.com/private-coaching

    What's Coming Next

    If this episode spoke to you, don't keep it to yourself — share it with a mom in your life who struggles around Mother's Day. And if you're ready to stop white-knuckling it alone and start doing this work with support, reach out about the one-on-one spot or explore the Flourished Mother Map as your first step.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    19 min
  • 88. The Non-episode Episode: A Permission Slip

    This week, I'm doing something a little different - recording a non-episode episode as a gentle reminder that we are not meant to be on all the time. I’m away with my kids on school vacation week, and I invite you to consider this your official permission slip to rest, to tap out, to stop producing at the pace you think you should. Because you are a cyclical being, which means you are meant to ebb, flow, and be consistently inconsistent!

    Quotes

    "We are not meant to be on all the time — in business, in life, in motherhood, in our relationships, in and with our bodies."

    "We are cyclical beings and women are part of nature. We are not meant to be on the same 24-hour cycle that men are on because our hormones don't work that way."

    "Cut yourself some slack, sign out, and get some rest."

    Resources Mentioned

    • Previous episode on cyclical living (link to relevant episode when available): SPOTIFY or APPLE
    • Flourished Mother Map: https://theschoolofmom.com/map

    What's Coming Next

    Sarah will be back next week with a brand new episode. In the meantime, take this week's episode for what it is - permission to rest.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    4 min
  • 87. There's no such thing as mental load

    You've heard of the mental load — but what if we've been calling it the wrong thing all along? In this episode, I'm making the case that there's no such thing as just a mental load, and why getting the name right is the first step toward actually getting relief. I go deep into the brain-body load, the MOMsight framework, and why real change doesn't happen by shuffling tasks around — it happens in the body.

    Key Points

    • Why "mental load" is a misnomer — and what the more accurate (and more useful) term actually is
    • How our thoughts, emotions, and nervous system are inextricably linked — and why treating the load as purely cognitive leaves us without the right tools
    • The difference between emotions and feelings — and why understanding this distinction is foundational to being a human who can flourish
    • Why 90–95% of our experience (including the choices we make under load) is unconscious — and what that means for real change
    • How the same event (a child's fever, a doctor's appointment) lands completely differently depending on what's happening in your nervous system
    • Why conversations about mental load often spiral into frustration, blame, and resentment — and what to do with that instead
    • The MOMsight framework: a map of the play between your nervous system, body, emotions, feelings, thoughts, and lived experience
    • Why offloading the brain body load isn't just about task redistribution — it's about shifting what's happening at a root level in your body
    • Resources and research Sarah loves: Brené Brown's emotion research, Mark Brackett's Permission to Feel, and the Mood Meter/How We Feel app
    • An invitation: Sarah has a one-on-one coaching spot open (May through year-end) for a mom ready to do this root cause work

    Quotes

    "Mental load suggests it's just thoughts in our head — and it's not. So we need to call that out."

    "Each of these tasks comes with a different emotional load. It lives differently in your body. The real estate that it takes up is different."

    "So often we are in thoughts and emotions and making choices from an unconscious place — which means we actually don't have control. Our programming is running the show."

    "It's not so simple as moving tasks around. And the more we see it that way, the less we support ourselves and shift what's happening at a root level in our bodies."

    Resources Mentioned

    • Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett: https://a.co/d/08Q0oNFq
    • The Mood Meter / How We Feel app (Marc Brackett): https://marcbrackett.com/how-we-feel-app-3/
    • Fair Play card deck (task mapping for couples): https://fairplaypolicy.org/the-cards
    • One-on-one coaching with Sarah (May–December 2026): reach out at http://theschoolofmom.com/private-coaching or DM on Instagram @the.schoolofmom: https://www.instagram.com/the.schoolofmom
    • Send Sarah a voice note here!: https://speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

    What's Coming Next

    If this episode stirred something in you, you're ready to go deeper. Take the first step with the Flourished Mother Map at https://theschoolofmom.com/map — and if one-on-one support feels like the right next step, Sarah would love to hear from you.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    21 min
  • 86. What You Actually Have Control Over

    In today’s episode, I'm calling out one of the most repeated lines in coaching and personal development, and offering you something that's actually true instead. Spoiler: you have more control than you think - it's just not where you've been told to look for it.

    Key Points

    • Why somatic work moves the needle in ways talk therapy can't — I spent years as a therapist talking through problems with women. Insight is valuable — but it's limited. When I discovered what was possible through body-based work, it changed everything. 90–95% of our experience is driven by unconscious programming living in our nervous system, and you simply can't talk your way out of that.
    • What actually happens in a somatic session — Whether a client is brand new to this work or has been doing it for years, the experience is consistently the same: I can't believe what just came through. The body holds wisdom, intuition, and real-time healing that the mind can't access alone.
    • Calling out the line everyone repeats — "The only thing you can control is your reaction." It's everywhere in coaching culture. And it's not quite true. If your unconscious nervous system is running the show — and for most of us, it is — you don't actually have control over your reactions in the moment. Telling yourself you should is just adding shame to the pile.
    • The truth about control — You have very limited control over your in-the-moment reaction, especially when you're tired, triggered, or dysregulated. But you do have real, meaningful control over something: the support you choose, the practices you commit to, and the nervous system work you do in advance of those moments. That's the real lever.
    • What the Flourished Mother actually looks like — She's not always calm. She's not always grounded. She feels the full spectrum of her humanness — including the anger — but she has the capacity to be with it. With presence, with grace, with compassion. And that capacity is built over time, through practice and support.

    Quotes

    "90 to 95% of our experience — the lens through which we see the world — is coming from our unconscious, which lives in our body."

    "You will be surprised. I am surprised every time — I didn't think anything was gonna come through. And wow, I am so grateful I did that."

    "You actually don't really have control over your reaction in the moment. But you do have control over the support that you decide to get."

    "What you do have control over is the reprogramming and the tending and the grounding you did to be in a body that supports you to react in the way that you want to."

    "Talking around in circles about the thing you wanna do is not going to help you change it in the moment."

    Resources Mentioned

    • Flourished Mother Map — A personalized session with Sarah to map your patterns and path forward: theschoolofmom.com/map
    • Flourish Community — Monthly membership for ongoing nervous system support and integration: http://theschoolofmom.com/flourish
    • One-on-one somatic sessions with Sarah — Reach out directly to book: http://theschoolofmom.com/private-coaching
    • Send Sarah a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

    What's Coming Next

    If this episode stirred something in you, the next step is simple: choose the support. Whether that's a Flourished Mother Map, a one-on-one session, or joining the Flourish community — the work you do before the moment is what changes the moment.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    14 min
  • 85. What's the point?

    What's the point? It's a question that can feel heavy — or become one of the most grounding, clarifying inquiries of your life. In this episode, I'm zooming way out on the School of MOM exists, the personal through-lines that have shaped this work, and what I truly hope for every mother who walks with me here. If you've ever found yourself swirling in the "why" of it all — around mothering, your life, your work — this one's for you.

    Key Points

    • How to ask "what's the point?" from a place of curiosity rather than shutdown — and why the difference matters (nervous system style)
    • The two personal through-lines behind the founding of the School of MOM: not becoming her, and becoming the mother to yourself that you never had
    • Why Sarah is estranged from her mother — and how that painful, personal reality became the heart of this work
    • The "Apples" community: women who carry the weight of estranged or dysfunctional mother relationships, and why they don't need to explain themselves
    • Why the goal isn't to learn more — it's integration: closing the gap between what you know and what you actually live in your body
    • The two roots of integration: embodied application of what you're learning, and wholeness — welcoming and tending to all parts of yourself
    • Flourish State Journaling: a powerful (and a little creepy-magical) practice for inhabiting your flourishing life as if it's already here
    • Why community is the secret ingredient that makes integration sustainable
    • A real-time moment from right before recording: what it looked like to actually be the Flourished Mother for her daughter — and why that's the whole point

    Quotes

    "What's the point? Not from the lens of 'what's the point' — that's very dorsal vagal, very shutdown. But what is the point?"

    "The next best person to fill the hole that's left when your mom can't fill the bucket is you."

    "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully was really about me becoming the mother to myself that I always needed and I never had."

    "I don't want my 30-something-year-old daughter attending a workshop on how and why she needs to make more time for herself."

    "Integration means closing the gap between what you know and what you feel and you're doing in your life."

    "This is it. This is what I've been working for — being that sturdy, compassionate, patient, loving human for her."

    Resources Mentioned

    • Flourished Mother Map — a personalized zoom-out experience with reflection questions and a custom video from Sarah. All Sarah, no AI: https://theschoolofmom.com/map
    • Discover Your Dominant Inner Voice Quiz — discover your dominant inner voice (anxiety, shame, negativity, or perfectionist): https://theschoolofmom.com/quiz
    • FLOURISH Community — where Flourish State Journaling and other integration practices live, including live co-working calls on the community calendar: http://theschoolofmom.com/flourish

    What's Coming Next

    Keep asking the question. Whether it feels clarifying or a little jarring — that's the work. Come share how this episode lands for you, grab a Flourished Mother Map, and keep walking toward the most flourished version of yourself.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    30 min
  • 84. I'm done with being regulated

    I'm recording this one on a windy day, and it feels fitting because this episode is unfiltered. I've been sitting with a growing frustration around a word that I've used a lot in this space, and I need to talk about it: regulated. As much as I believe in what it means in the nervous system sense, something has shifted - in me, in this cultural moment, and in what I want to model for my daughters. So I'm officially retiring the word, and replacing it with something that actually captures what we're building here: flourished.


    Key Points

    1. Why "regulated" no longer works for me — The nervous system definition of regulated (moving through sympathetic and shutdown states and returning to grounded safety) is still true and valid. But the word itself has become too loaded — politically, culturally, and personally — to land the way it's meant to. Words matter, and this one isn't working anymore.
    2. The personal moment that sparked this — A heated exchange with my husband, a group call where another mom voiced the exact same frustration, and the realization that I was holding a layer of self-blame on top of the original trigger: I should be more regulated. Why aren't I more regulated? Sound familiar?
    3. The systemic piece we can't ignore — Women have been conditioned to keep their voices calm, their emotions contained, and their reactions palatable. The expectation to be "the regulated one" in the relationship, in the home, in the world — is a systemic pattern, not a personal failing.
    4. What I want instead: flourished — Your kids don't need a perfect mom. They don't need a regulated mom. They need a flourished mom. A mom who is lit up by what she's passionate about, who unapologetically feels her feelings, who trusts her rage and her rest and her seasons.
    5. The Flourished Mother archetypes — A breakdown of the inner archetypes that live inside the Flourished Mother:
    6. The Mindful Gardner — present, self-compassionate (both tender and fierce), a kind witness to herself
    7. The Boundary Boss — fierce and clear about what she needs to thrive, and unapologetic about it
    8. The Rest Queen & Pleasure Goddess — rest and pleasure are not earned; they're key ingredients in the flourishing recipe
    9. The Cyclical Celebrator — trusts the seasons of nature, the moon, and her own body; doesn't judge the winter or rush the bloom
    10. What the Flourished Mother actually asks of us — Not to be calm all the time. Not to perform regulation. But to be fully human: alive, passionate, emotionally honest, boundaried, and trusting the process.
    11. Permission to let go of regulated — If the word "regulated" has been shackling you — if you've been working overtime to be the composed, calm, measured one — this is your invitation to release that goal and find the word that actually fits. For me? It's flourished.

    Quotes

    "I don't want to be regulated. I want to be flourished."

    "Your kids don't need a perfect mom. They need a flourished mom."

    "She's the woman that is unapologetically living in a nervous system that is embracing the whole spectrum."

    "I don't want my girls to grow up feeling like they have to work so hard to be regulated all the time."

    "I want to be living my most fun, playful, unapologetically human life — which means I'm sad and I'm angry and I lose my temper. That's what I want to model."

    Resources Mentioned

    1. 🌿 Flourished Mother Starter Kit — Five nervous system practices to begin awakening your inner Flourished Mother: https://theschoolofmom.com/starter
    2. 📬 Reach Sarah at [email protected]
    3. 🎙️ Send Sarah a voice note: speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

    What's Coming Next

    Stay close — we're continuing to explore what it actually looks and feels like to be a Flourished Mother, from the inside out.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    24 min
  • 83. Who Programmed Your Motherhood GPS?

    It's my birthday week, and I'm out on the road celebrating with something special — opening up a limited number of Flourished Mother Map sessions to the wider community for the very first time. In this episode, I walk you through exactly what the Flourished Mother Map is, why it's the foundation of everything we do in the School of MOM, and introduce a metaphor that might just change how you see your patterns forever: your motherhood GPS. We explore who programmed it, where it's actually taking you — and how to reroute.

    Key Points

    1. What the Flourished Mother Map is and why women in Flourish consistently say it's worth the entire investment on its own
    2. The self-driving car metaphor: how most of us are being driven by unconscious programming we didn't choose and can't see
    3. Why having the right planner, system, or notebook will never get you to your destination if the GPS is programmed to go somewhere else
    4. One of the most common themes in Flourished Mother Maps: making time for ourselves and the beliefs that get in the way
    5. The "achieving first, rest later" programming so many high-functioning mothers carry — and what the updated belief system looks like
    6. Why we need support to make our own unconscious conscious (even Sarah, who coaches on this, needs her own coach)
    7. The garden metaphor: we can't blame the flower for not blooming — we have to look at the conditions it's planted in
    8. How the Flourished Mother Map zooms out to show you where you are, where you're getting stuck, what's working, and what your path forward looks like
    9. The full School of MOM journey: starting with your Flourished Mother Map → integration in Flourish → your unique path to flourishing

    Quotes

    "You have been put in a self-driving car that has its own destination — and you didn't pick it."

    "You can have the newest planner, but you're still in the same place, because you're still in that outdated, unhelpful programming."

    "We can't blame the flower for not blooming. We have to look at the conditions that the flower is planted in."

    "My wellbeing, my nervous system state is at the nucleus of the thriving and flourishing of my family."

    "We need support to make our own unconscious conscious."

    Resources Mentioned

    1. 🎂 Birthday Special — Flourished Mother Map: Limited spots available → https://checkout.theschoolofmom.com/map/

    2. 🎙️ Send Sarah your voice note right here!: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

    What's Coming Next

    If this episode had you wondering who's really driving your car, reach out — Sarah would love to do a Flourished Mother Map with you. And watch this space: exciting things are ahead at the School of MOM.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    18 min
  • 82. Learning to Lead Our Selves: Becoming the Mother We Need

    In this episode, I talk about one of the most foundational concepts in the work we do here at The School of Mom: selves leadership. This is the thread that runs through everything — through the Mothering Ourselves Mindfully framework, through what it really means to want to "be a better mom," and through how we show up in a world that is desperately hungry for grounded, mature, emotionally attuned adults. If you've ever looked around and wondered where are the adults in the room? — this one is for you.

    Key Points

    1. What "selves leadership" actually means — We are not just one self. We are a compilation of younger selves, reactive selves, and wiser selves. The inner work here is about tending to the contracted parts while awakening and amplifying the more grounded, steady parts that are ready to lead.
    2. The connection to attachment theory — Many of us grew up without a securely attached caregiver — without someone who was emotionally healthy, attuned, and present. Selves leadership is about becoming that secure attachment figure for yourself, inside the ecosystem of your own inner world. It's not too late.
    3. Awakening vs. creating — This is a crucial distinction. We are not building something from scratch. We are awakening what is already there. The steady, compassionate, resilient parts of you already exist — in your body, in your lineage, in your healed and wise ancestors, even if they weren't in your immediate family.
    4. The grief that comes with this work — There is real grief in realizing you didn't have the model you needed growing up. That's valid, and we make room for it. And and — we can grieve that while also discovering that the resource we're looking for is actually accessible within us.
    5. What's happening in our world right now — We are living in a moment with a real lack of grounded leadership. Our kids are watching. This isn't new — the feelings of hopelessness and overwhelm are ancient — but this moment is calling us to alchemize our anger and grief into effective action. That starts with leading ourselves.
    6. Emotional safety starts inside — When you learn to lead all parts of yourself, you create emotional safety for yourself first. Your kids then experience a parent who can return to steadiness — because you can return to steadiness in the ecosystem of your own inner world.
    7. You are being called, not invited — This is not a gentle nudge. Women and mothers everywhere are being called to wake up from inherited, programmed survival states. The more we stay in shutdown and hopelessness, the more we fuel the very systems we want to change.

    Quotes

    "We are becoming the unicorns here in The School of Mom."

    "No one is coming to save us. We actually have to become those humans that we so desperately crave in our lives."

    "Awakening versus creating — it's so much more challenging to create something from scratch than to tap into what is already there."

    "When mothers learn how to lead all parts of themselves, you create emotional safety for yourself — and you create emotional safety for your kids."

    "We all have an assignment right now, and that is to wake up."

    Resources Mentioned

    1. The Flourished Mother Starter Kit — Five nervous system practices to begin awakening your more grounded, mindful, discerning, and attuned self. Download it at https://theschoolofmom.com/start
    2. Mothering Ourselves Mindfully — Sarah's signature program. Learn more at https://theschoolofmom.com/mom
    3. Send Sarah a voice message: https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom

    What's Coming Next

    We're continuing to explore what it means to truly mother ourselves mindfully — not as a self-improvement project, but as a profound act of leadership. Stay close for what's coming next at The School of Mom.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    17 min
  • 81. Who wants to be a better mom?

    In this episode, I'm walking through a snowy winter scene reflecting on a question that's been coming up a lot lately: what does it really mean to want to be a better mom? I share the story of my very first brand positioning statement from 2020, why I pushed back on it then, and why five years later I've completely changed my mind. This episode is an invitation to explore how growth and self-compassion aren't opposites — and why wanting more for yourself as a mom is something to be proud of.

    Key Points

    1. The marketing positioning statement that made me anxious in 2020 — and why I embrace it now
    2. Why I was over-protecting moms from their own shame, and the shift I've made since
    3. The difference between wanting to be better from a place of "I'm not enough" vs. "I'm ready and available"
    4. What "better" actually means in my world: more steady, more grounded, more integrated — not more perfect
    5. The conversation I had with my daughters asking them how I could be a better mom — and what they said
    6. Why shame is like an appendix: we've largely evolved past needing it, and it rarely drives healthy action
    7. Who I'm speaking to now: the self-aware, high-functioning mom who is activated by growth, not shamed by it
    8. How wanting to be better actually helps us integrate the parts of ourselves that feel like they're never enough

    Quotes

    "There is nothing wrong with you as you are, and you still get to want more from yourself."

    "Better, ironically, means that you've integrated the parts of yourselves that don't feel like they're good enough."

    "I am perfectly imperfect. I embrace all parts of myself — and they're super lucky because of that."

    "It's possible to grow and to be better without shame."

    Resources Mentioned

    1. Send Sarah a voice note! → Send Sarah your voice note right here! https://www.speakpipe.com/theschoolofmom
    2. Learn more about Mothering Ourselves Mindfully → https://theschoolofmom.com
    3. Email Sarah directly: [email protected]

    What's Coming Next

    If this episode stirred something in you, send Sarah a voice note or share it with a mom friend you can go on a walk with and ask: "What does being a better mom mean to you?" Those are exactly the conversations the School of Mom is here for.

    Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!


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    21 min

About Mothering Ourselves Mindfully

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Welcome to Mothering Ourselves Mindfully with me, Sarah Harmon. I am the founder, head teacher, and forever student at The School of MOM. I invite you to take a walk with me to hear insights,…