In this episode, we're shifting the conversation away from the typical "mental load" discussion to what's really happening beneath the surface. If you've been feeling overwhelmed by all the things you're managing and thinking that better systems or planners will solve it, this episode will change how you understand what you're actually carrying.

Key Points

• Why the term "mental load" is actually inaccurate - it's really a "brain body load" that encompasses mental, physical, and emotional components
• The difference between cognitive/managerial tasks (which research shows have positive associations) and emotional load (which is toxic and weighs us down)
• How every simple task carries an emotional component that creates the real heaviness you feel
• Understanding that you don't have a mental load problem - you have an emotional load problem
• The visual metaphor of carrying too much physically and why your body will eventually give out
• Why planners, systems, and delegation won't solve the deeper issue if you're carrying unprocessed emotions
• How emotional load impacts everything from your capacity for joy to your desire for intimacy
• The importance of making the invisible emotional programming visible and doing the inner work

Quotes "You don't have a mental load problem. You have an emotional load problem."

"There's no such thing as just mental. Mental is emotional, is physical. There's no separation."

"What seems like a small mental, cognitive managerial task often can carry a huge emotional load."

"The more we call it the mental load, the less we actually understand it, and that means the less access we have to helping ourselves relieve this load."

Resources Mentioned

• "Why Smart, Self-Aware Moms Stay Stuck" PDF: https://theschoolofmom.com/smart 
• The School of Mom integration community: https://theschoolofmom.com/ 
• Radical Flourishing intimate program: https://cal.com/theschoolofmom/breakthrough-call 
• Nourish retreat (October 17th in Vermont): https://theschoolofmom.com/nourish 
• Upcoming podcast episode with sex therapist Rebecca Uti about "Parents and Love"

What's Coming Next Continue exploring how to do the deeper nervous system and emotional work needed to truly lighten your brain body load and access more joy, presence, and ease in your daily life.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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