Mar (SP/SX 7w6 794) joins us for a luminous, chaotic dive into the inner world of an SP Seven — where optimism burns like a flare, vision outpaces feasibility, and connection is often a puzzle missing key pieces. Mar touches on her social blindness — the kind that makes small talk feel like calculus and leads to well-meaning intensity that others don't always know how to receive. We explore her writing, which orbits themes of fate, finality, and surrealism — what she calls “pocket knife stories” for their compact emotional heft. This conversation also opens space for harder truths: her relationship with alcohol as both amplifier and isolator, the tension between reckless vitality and the longing for groundedness, and the ongoing work of integrating a self built on speed with one that can sit still. At the heart of it all is a question familiar to many Sevens: What does it mean to choose presence, when flight feels like freedom?

Link to Mar's writing; https://www.marovsheid.com/

LINKS

Learn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram


TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

03:28 - Understanding enneagram typing before knowing the enneagram, something the personality is doing that isn't 'baseline', being different from the average mold

07:56 - Navigating social interactions as a social blind, blindspot not holding nuance

14:47 - Social dismissal, writing as self-value, 4 fix misattunement

22:36 - Type 7 instant gratification seeking, getting what you want from a young age, objects of desire, the dachshund story

32:42 - Making luck: balancing action/faith, assertiveness without pragmatism

40:19 - Vision of a solar-powered future, self-preservation 7 lacking stick-to-itiveness

48:12 - Fragility of dreams/weight of the past, looking to be optimally nourished, difficulty reflecting

59:37 - Mar's relationship to writing, type 7 always looking to the next thing, 4w5 constantly reworking self

01:04:28 - Finality and tragedy in art, fragility of existence

01:17:51 - Nature of writing and self-expression, 'giving the symbols legs', the inner tension between 2 poles

01:26:58 - Staying power of writing while being a 7

01:37:32 - Navigating alcohol as a tool, sp/sx not feeling answerable to social, curling into self

01:54:12 - Outro


CREDITS Interview by Josh Lavine
Edited by Kristen Oberly
Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay
Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/
Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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