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As a long-time human-sexuality professor—aka., an old human-sexuality professor, I have gained tidbits over the years guaranteed to capture students’ attention. One of these tidbits is the four fs.

The four fs are the four basic drives behind your every feeling, action, or thought. No matter your culture, gender, orientation, age, or time in which you are living in history, we all have these drives in common.

You probably guessed each of these drives begins with the letter f, but do you know what these drives are?

Answer: Feeding, Fighting, Fleeing, and Sex.

(Hey! I thought all the drives were supposed to begin with the letter f?)

Your survival is based upon your: 1) drive to eat, 2) assertive and aggressive tendencies, 3) fears and ability to escape danger, and 4) sexual drives. Since the four fs are the bases of our existence, you might assume people are without biases, discussing, analyzing, and studying them throughout their lifetimes. However, this appears to be the case for only three of the four fs.

Care to guess which f is least likely to be addressed within authentic, real, and objective conversations?

Without shame, judgment, or taboos, 5 Minutes of Intercourse is an opportunity for you to think openly and objectively about sex. Using science as a lens, this channel playfully examines fundamental aspects of human sexuality, including gender, orientation, anatomy, physiology, fantasies, behaviors, paraphilias, and consent.

My hope is these examinations combined with your thoughts will allow you to expand your topics of authentic conversations with others to include the fourth f, sex.

Sex “Education”

Whom do you use for answers to your most private questions about sex? Lovers, friends, doctors, family, clergy—or Google? Google processes over 3.5 billion search queries per day—many of which, performed under cloak of anonymity, are about sex.

So, what kinds of sex questions are asked on Google—are they about extramarital affairs, pornography, fetishes…? Some are—but most are simple and basic. “How big should my penis be?” “Is it healthy for my vagina to smell like vinegar?” “How can I make my boyfriend climax more quickly?” “Why is sex painful?” “What exactly is an orgasm?”

These searches clearly show we have tremendous interests in our sexuality—as we should. However, the accuracy of the answers provided by friends, family—and even Google, remains to be seen.

I have built 5 Minutes of Intercourse upon a promise. I promise if you visit weekly, then you will not need (as many) clandestine excursions on Google because 5 Minutes of Intercourse provides unbiased and scientifically-based answers to many of the questions you likely have about sexuality.

Sexual Literacy

5 Minutes of Intercourse is forever exploring sexually literacy. Sexual literacy is the core of our sexuality—it drives our biological goals (e.g., pregnancy and pleasure), psychological goals (e.g., love and self-esteem), and sociological goals (e.g., marriage and status) to be formed, fully explored, and successfully achieved.

Despite barriers standing in the way of our natural explorations of sexual literacy, 5 Minutes of Intercourse will allow you to (1) question why general beliefs about sex are often inaccurate, (2) test your levels of sexual knowledge, and (3) introspect upon definitions of sexuality, sexual development, and sexual health.

Always looking forward to our intercourse,

Dr. Don