What's going on everyone. It's Aaron Cournoyer and welcome to another episode of MLM Hackers Radio.

 

If you're like me, then you know, Mlm is a great opportunity to grow up lasting assets. But the real problem is what do we do when we run out of our warm market and how do we succeed without pitching to just family and friends. This podcast is here to answer the growing questions about Mlm as I learn, apply and scale my very own MLM business and document how to in this podcast. I'm Aaron Cournoyer and this is MLM Hackers Radio.

 

Hey, welcome back guys. Um, today in this episode I'm gonna talk to you a little bit about why it's important to actually build a relationship with people before you start pitching them or reach out to them, whatever it may be. Um, so quick story. A few days ago I had one of my upline's from my old, my old MLM. Um, he reached out to me like he was upline, upline. Like he's a number one income earner in the state of Wisconsin where I'm from. And he reached out to me and just, it, it really frustrates me how he reached out to me and it was like, you know, there was no rapport build or anything and, and uh, he basically just just went straight to the point and you know, a guy of his stature, I think he should know a little bit better that that's not the way you reach out to it.

 

That that's a terrible way of trying to get somebody back into your opportunity. And, uh, so it, it just frustrates me that this is what they're teaching and this is obviously what he's teaching. And that's obviously why I had such an issue inside that Mlm anyways. Um, and people are actually having them same issues. So, um, it, it's funny, this is what he says to me. He goes, um, "what's up Aaron? Are you ready?I" Hahaha, I just thought it was hilarious. Like, what do you, what do you mean? Am I ready? What am I supposed to be ready for a, I mean, what kind of relationship or what kind of, you know, rapport. Have you established with me? Do you even care about how I'm doing? Do you know what's going on in my life right now? Like those are the things that, that right there is why MLM gets a bad rap and then why people think that mlm is not necessarily a scam, but people are so salesy in so pushy.

 

I don't want to be a salesman is because exactly how he went at it. There was no relationship established. And know, imagine I haven't talked to him in about two, three, maybe four years. So why would you reach out? And this is not been the first time, and this has been, he's, he's done it like every year, year and a half. He's always reached out to me and said something like that. And it's like, you are not, you are missing the point. There's a reason why I didn't say anything back. I didn't say anything back to him. I completely ignored him and I'm getting real close to just deleting him. Um, because it's frustrating. Like you don't that, and I know that's not the way you recruit. That's not the way you build a relationship with someone. Um, you know, I honestly, I was thinking about should I, should I message them back and say, ready for what?... What am I supposed to be ready for?

 

And then really be like, whoa, oh what kind of relationship did you try to, um, build with me first? So obviously what I'm going through, what's going on with me or anything in my life is none of importance to you. You're only cared about me to try to work through me and build your business. Think about that... That's the reason why I was so frustrated with it. And that's what they teach you in the normal MLM is how to work through someone else's network. You're working through networks, through networks, you're, working in building through people instead of actually like, you know, bringing your own people to you. And um, that really just frustrated me and I, the whole point of this podcast is to let you know, like, that is not the way that you build rapport with someone. And now here's the difference. If he would've came to me and said, hey, Aaron, how's it going?

 

Haven't talked to you in a while. How you been? I would've said something back to him and then I would have had a normal conversation, like have a conversation with someone first before you start trying to force them into something. Um, obviously if I wanted to and if I was ready to be in that Mlm, I would've been, I would've done it already. And he knows that. So, and that, that's the frustrating part. And so, like I said, make sure that you establish a relationship, make sure that you don't take the human out of it and you actually be genuinely concerned, uh, of how your person or the person you're trying to talk to and what their life is and what's going on with them. You, you, there's an old saying goes, "people don't care what you know until they know how much you care."

 

And that is very true, especially in the MLM space. Like people don't care what you have to offer unless they know that you actually care about them and that you care about their goals and what, what they want. And I just felt like that was just the wrong way for him to approach me. Um, even though that I was in the business before and he's really not pitching me, but it doesn't matter, it's been three years, so you have to repitch me. You have to Redo it. You'd have to rebuild a rapport with someone. So he totally did it wrong in that. That's really frustrating and that's why the point I wanted to make this podcast and let you guys know like that is the wrong way. Make sure you build and establish a relationship, um, before you start and make sure it's okay that you gotta kind of like warm them up before you sit there and just try to go, you know, really aggressive towards them.

 

Um, you know, I just felt like, you know, with that, the way he did that is like, oh, I'm just another number or I'm just another, um, you know, he just trying to make money and work through my, through my contacts again. And it's like, dude, that right there, you know, I'm not trying to be mean or nothing, but that right there tells me two things that they're running out of a market or they ran out of their market already, which I believe they already have because I am still part of Facebook groups with them and I, I don't see anybody signing up anyone. So, or maybe they deleted me off. I don't know. But I don't see anyone getting being signed up. Um, and that, you know, that's, they're trying to go back to their old, they're old clients or the old, their old prospects their old team members.

 

They're trying to go back to them and recycle again. And that's where the biggest frustrating is. Like, I wish I could help them and teach them like, hey, there's a different way to do this, like using the Internet. But the problem is they wouldn't listen anyways. And I already know that. And if they would listen and it probably changed your business, they won't have to go back and get ignored and get blocked and, um, you know, get yelled at or whatever. And by creating no rapport and just trying to force something down someone's throat without actually getting, you know, having some conversation with them established first. Um, it just brings you back to the point is that they're just teaching the stupid BS, junk tactics and it's frustrating to see and, um, it, it's literally killing, killing people's business. So please don't be that guy.

 

Don't be that girl. Do not be the one out there trying to force it down someone's throat. Um, make sure that they're, they're ready and you have established a relationship and, um, do something like, you know, make sure you like have a soft ask, you know, hey, do you mind if I share with you what I've been doing? You know, do something like that to the lines instead of just how are you ready? Are you ready to join? I ready this, oh, this and don't really talk too much about the product. Talk about the opportunity and, and how, um, it's changed your life. Um, and build a story into that. Stories are huge inside of a selling. It's a big selling point. Um, big marketing point. Is a story. Um, so that honestly if you do it the way he did it to me, that is the easiest way for you to get yourself blocked.

 

Uh, or in my case, no response and on the verge of deleting him as a frame. Um, and not to mention this, wasn't he, this was a message through Facebook messenger. This isn't, wasn't a reach out through text message when I'm pretty sure he still has my number and if not, he should have built some rapport to do it. So, uh, don't be that person. Don't, don't go out there and try to jam it down your throats and say stupid things like he did. Um actually build a relationship and get to know your, your, your person. Doesn't matter how long, you know, you guys could have been good friends for years and haven't had a connection in the last couple of years, year, three years, five, 10 years, however long it is. Don't be afraid to reconnect and actually have a relationship. You've got to understand like these are your team members.

 

You're going to have to work with them anyways. So if these are the ones that you want to vacation with and do all these things, and these are the people that want to work with, then make sure you establish relationship right away before just saying something stupid like, are you ready? Dude, if I was ready, I would have reached out, I would've did everything else? Um, if I wanted to do that and do it your way and be part of that Mlm. Um, so that's all I really got for you guys. Go out there and ah, make sure you establish relationship and rapport with someone that you are trying to recruit first. Do not just jam it down their throat. And thank you guys for listening and I'll catch you guys in the next episode. You guys have a wonderful day. Crush your week!

 

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