In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, I go into the truths I wish I had known at the beginning of my self-love journey.

I’m sharing these with you today in the hopes that they make your own self-love journey a little less tumultuous and uncertain.

Truth #1: Your self-love journey does not go in a straight line.

The beginning of your self-love journey is going to be scary. There’s no way around that fact. However, it should give you hope and confidence that everyone has to face this same fear.

There is a lot of uncertainty, particularly because we usually don’t know what our final destination is going to look like.

Truth #2: You are the one standing in your own way.

Too often, we blame people around us, the circumstances we find ourselves in, or some other outside force.

In other words, we blame everything and everyone for our problems but ourselves.

The truth is, our problems are a reflection of what’s inside of us. It’s terrifying to admit that we’re the ones getting in our own way.

Truth #3: It’s way easier and much more fun when you have community and support.

The self-love journey can feel really isolating sometimes.

I remember running into the perfect coach. I was obsessed with finding a way to work directly with her, and the only opportunity that came my way was a group coaching program.

I did hesitate, wondering whether I’d really get the value I needed from a group setting. I basically thought that my growth would be diluted.

Long story short, many of my wounds were healed as a result of being part of that group program. I looked to a single woman for my healing; but, I was able to heal thanks to all the women I interacted with during that program.

A deeper form of healing occurs when you allow yourself to engage with a community.

Truth #4: You’ll feel a wave of shame wash over you when you get started.

This is likely because self-love has never been modeled to you, which is why it feels so difficult to get started in the first place.

You are likely to be the first person in your lineage to engage in this journey of self-love. You are breaking free of generational trauma.

Change is always scary. What more if you’re the first in your family to do so with regards to one of the most important areas of your life: self-love?

Don’t expect your self-love journey to feel easy or natural. Our bodies are taught to conform, because that’s what keeps us safe.

But conformity is not what leads us to change.

Truth #5: The only way you’ll become the person you’re meant to be is by embarking on this journey and making mistakes.

Knowledge and wisdom are gained through mistakes made over and over and over again.

The only way you’ll become that wise, calm, patient, and confident person is by embarking on your self-love journey.

Unlike school, life will test you before you learn the lesson.

Truth #6: There is no destination on this self-love journey.

If you’re looking for a happily ever after, don’t bother to get started. You’ll only be sorely disappointed.

But if you’re looking to enjoy this journey called “life”, then absolutely embark on your self-love journey.

Here’s the thing: Life will not get any easier. Life will continue to throw challenges at us. It will take twists and turns. We will be handed heartbreak. We will be faced with really tough challenges.

But what we can do is grow into the version of you that has the capacity to allow all of it to flow through you.

That is when life becomes really juicy.

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