SUMMARY

In this episode of the Being Sons podcast, we delve into "The Big Six" essential needs every child requires from their caregivers, as explained by our guest, trauma therapist, podcast host and author Adam Young. Together we discover how attunement, responsiveness, engagement, affect regulation, emotional strength, and repair can profoundly impact a child's development and secure attachment. Join us as we explore these foundational elements and learn how they shape the journey of fatherhood and personal growth. You WILL get insights that promise to transform your understanding of your child, your childhood, parenting and relationships.

TAKEAWAYS

• Understanding your own story is crucial for effective parenting.
• Children need attuned and responsive caregivers to develop securely.
• The 'Big Six' needs are essential for healthy emotional development.
• Attunement involves recognizing and understanding a child's emotional state.
• Responsiveness is about how caregivers react to a child's emotions.
• Engagement means pursuing a child's unique identity and feelings.
• Parents must regulate their children's affect during emotional dysregulation.
• It's important for parents to handle their own emotions to support their children.
• Repairing harm done in parenting is essential for healthy relationships.
• The parent-child relationship is designed for the parent to give and the child to receive.

 

CHAPTERS

00:00 Understanding Dysregulation and Its Impact 01:03 Introduction to Adam Young and His Work 05:15 The Importance of Personal Story in Healing 06:34 The Influence of Family of Origin on Fathering 09:48 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment Explained 11:42 The Big Six Needs of Children 16:52 Attunement: Reading Children's Emotional States 18:51 Responsiveness: The Role of Caregivers 19:48 Engagement: Pursuing the Child's Unique Identity 26:32 Regulating Children's Affect: A Parent's Role 34:50 Handling Big Emotions: The Parent's Strength 39:42 The Importance of Repair in Relationships

 

To learn more from Adam Young listen to his great podcast, “The Place We Find Ourselves” and read his excellent new book, “Make Sense of Your Story”

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