Inside Job

63: The Fallacies of Negotiating with Yourself


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"You can do it later…"

"A little more sleep is more important than that workout…"

"You're great at the last-minute projects, you can start it next week…"

We're all quite skilled at the art of negotiating with ourselves, talking ourselves in and out of habits and actions that would move us towards our goals.

Whether you're talking yourself out of applying for a job you're interested in, or talking yourself into spending just a few more minutes on YouTube because you had a tough morning, when we're paying attention, we can see this habit at work.

This week we talk through how to get more skilled at noticing how we hold ourselves back, make excuses for ourselves, or hide when we negotiate with ourselves.

We offer ideas to notice how frequently we engage in the personal negotiation and a shift to use negotiation as a tool to challenge and uphold yourself to be the best version of you.

And, Nayla gets to use one of her favorite quotes: we can learn to talk to ourselves more than we listen to ourselves.

Inside Job is brought to you by Nayla Bahri and Eric Johnson.

To learn more about us and our work, visit www.insidejobthepodcast.com or email us at [email protected].

To learn more about the ideas and resources discussed in this episode, check out our show notes.

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