Mastering Midlife with Heidi

65. People Pleasing Is a Trap and ‘Sorry’ Is the Bait; What to Say Instead of Apologizing


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What if saying “sorry” isn’t kindness — but self-doubt in disguise? And what if the key to less doubt and more respect is simply choosing a new way to speak? 

In this episode, I'm showing you why "sorry" isn't creating the connection you think it is—and why it's actually making things worse.

Here's what you'll learn:

  • Why apologizing when you've done nothing wrong destroys your confidence
  • How saying "sorry" is a trap to avoid feeling guilty
  • Why over-apologizing pushes people away instead of bringing them closer and,
  • Exact phrases to use instead of "sorry"

If you people please, saying "sorry" is like trying to comb your hair with a hammer. It's the wrong tool!

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