Undressing Intimacy

69. Is Hyper-Focusing on Sexual Positions Killing Your Intimacy?


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Is your sex life becoming a "to-do" list? In this special 69th episode, we are tackling the elephant in the room: sexual positions and the pressure to perform. Many couples think that introducing a specific act—like the 69 position, a new toy, or a fantasy scenario—will magically fix their connection. But often, hyper-focusing on the "act" actually kills the intimacy.

Join Greg and Amy as they break down the difference between Production vs. Connection. If you are trying to "produce" an orgasm or "achieve" a position, you aren't present with your spouse. We discuss why setting sexual expectations is a trap and how to move from checking boxes to truly consuming and enjoying your partner.

In this episode, we cover:

  • The 69 Trap: Why hyper-focusing on specific positions or toys makes you lose track of your partner.
  • Production vs. Connection: How to stop trying to "produce" an experience and start actually experiencing it.
  • Killing Expectations: Why measuring success by whether you hit a specific goal (like orgasm or a specific act) destroys eroticism.
  • The "Checklist" Failure: Greg shares his personal failure of having a "checklist" of things he wanted Amy to do, and why it led to disappointment rather than connection.

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Undressing IntimacyBy Amy and Greg Langford