Do you wish your spouse would get things done the way you want? Or your kids would just listen to you more? There are so many barriers that can separate and divide you from the people you love. But here's the secret my friends: when you blame the person, you're not creating connection. When you blame people, it creates defensiveness. Don't worry though, there's a better way- blame the system. The problem is not with the person, but in the framework you've created together. Today I'll show you 4 ways to create greater connections by coming up with new systems- or ways of doing things- together. Remember, we are not here to control people. We're here to work together, go through hard things, celebrate the good, and learn as we go.