It's a challenging time when the anniversary of your time together with your ex comes up. The day rolls back round again. It's a week or two away, but you know it's coming up soon.

Friends have offered to be around to distract you, and part of you wants the distraction, but you also know that it's only going to delay you from acknowledging the day. Whether that's with heap of tears, or a sense of relief, a reflection of where you've come from the break up to how strong you are now that you've been through it. 

Whether it was three months ago, or three years, you're bound to get all those feels coming up and the "what ifs" of what could've been and might've been play on your mind. You can't stop thinking about your ex and the life that you dreamt you had together - and though you've moved past the biggest struggle and let that vision go, the anniversary day triggers you in all kinds of ways that bring up the memories of first dates, Valentine's Days, and happy memories on previous anniversaries, including your wedding day for some. 

In this episode, I'll be exploring how you can approach the day and make sure you work through the day with the assurance that no matter what emotion it is, your feelings are valid. 

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Key Moments:

• "Your feelings are entirely valid for however you feel about this day."
• "Looking back, you think about the best bits of your relationship."
• "Distraction is not the best way to deal with anniversary-related thoughts and feelings."
• "Your time with that person and that magical day is still as magical as it was, or as magical as you choose to believe it was."
• "Look back at what you were doing this time last year. How far have you come from the last anniversary to this anniversary?"
• "What have you been able to do in your life now that you have not been with that person?"
• "You might be in a position where you can talk to your new partner about that, or it might not be something they're prepared to talk to you about, but still process it."

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