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71. Why Expectations Kill Desire & The Trap of "Virtuous" Service
In Episode 71, Greg and Amy break down why "eroticism hates a job description" and how to shift from demanding outcomes to sharing authentic desires.
If your intimacy feels like a "to-do list," this episode is for you. Greg and Amy discuss:
• Redefining "Wholesome": Why true wholesomeness isn't about moral purity, but operating from a "whole sense of self".
• The Expectation Trap: Why "expectation is neediness" and how turning a desire into a dependency kills the erotic spark.
• The "Virtue" Defense: How women often hide behind "virtuous service" (doing everything for everyone) to avoid sexual vulnerability, and why this is just as damaging as a husband's neediness,.
• Breaking the "If/Then" Cycle: How to stop measuring your spouse's love by whether they meet specific demands (e.g., "If she loved me, she would initiate").
🎉 WINNER ANNOUNCEMENT: We announce the winner of our 3 Free Coaching Sessions giveaway! Congratulations to Jet Cell Plane—please email us to redeem your sessions.
Join the Community: Don't miss our next community gathering on Tuesday, Jan 27th, where we will discuss how to avoid common Valentine's Day traps and navigate holiday expectations,.
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By Amy and Greg LangfordIn Episode 71, Greg and Amy break down why "eroticism hates a job description" and how to shift from demanding outcomes to sharing authentic desires.
If your intimacy feels like a "to-do list," this episode is for you. Greg and Amy discuss:
• Redefining "Wholesome": Why true wholesomeness isn't about moral purity, but operating from a "whole sense of self".
• The Expectation Trap: Why "expectation is neediness" and how turning a desire into a dependency kills the erotic spark.
• The "Virtue" Defense: How women often hide behind "virtuous service" (doing everything for everyone) to avoid sexual vulnerability, and why this is just as damaging as a husband's neediness,.
• Breaking the "If/Then" Cycle: How to stop measuring your spouse's love by whether they meet specific demands (e.g., "If she loved me, she would initiate").
🎉 WINNER ANNOUNCEMENT: We announce the winner of our 3 Free Coaching Sessions giveaway! Congratulations to Jet Cell Plane—please email us to redeem your sessions.
Join the Community: Don't miss our next community gathering on Tuesday, Jan 27th, where we will discuss how to avoid common Valentine's Day traps and navigate holiday expectations,.