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Every couple disagrees — the real question is how you handle it. 

In this episode, therapist and relationship coach Jason Polk shares practical communication tools he's developed over 10+ years of working exclusively with couples, drawing on the work of Terry Real and Stan Tatkin.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why self-regulation is the single most important communication skill
• The difference between speaking from your anger vs. as a representative of it
• How to stay on your side of the street and avoid triggering defensiveness
• Why requests work better than criticism — and how to make them
• The Feedback Wheel tool (link below)
• How to create agreements around persistent issues
• When and how to use a timeout before things escalate
• Why accepting that reality is subjective can transform your conversations

Resources mentioned:

• Feedback Wheel worksheet
• Fair Play Card Deck

Whether you're in couples therapy or working on your relationship on your own, these strategies will help you communicate more clearly, fight less destructively, and reconnect more quickly.

This is Part 1 — stay tuned for Part 2!

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