Sign up to save your podcasts
Or
Share 75. Stop Fixin’ Grown A** Folks: When Boundaries Make You the Problem
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Or
75. Stop Fixin’ Grown A** Folks: When Boundaries Make You the Problem
When you set boundaries, somebody always calls you the villain or the problem.
Especially if you’ve been the family’s emotional manager for years.
In this episode, I’m talking about the messy middle of family rupture—when a message looks like love but lands like a summons… and you realize you can’t “repair” with people who are more committed to protecting their self-image than protecting your kids.
I’m paraphrasing personal details on purpose. This isn’t a drag session. It’s a pattern.
We talk about:
How “sweet” texts can still be pressure
Why your body braces before your mind catches up
Relief + guilt (and why that combo is a sign you’re changing something real)
What it means to “break up with the mother wound”
How to stop being the family’s emotional janitor
If you’re a helper who looks fine but feels cooked… welcome.
👉🏾 Everything you need is on my website: www.shawnalovinlpcs.com
➡️ Texas LPC Associates Supervision that keeps you ethical and human
➡️ Messy Middle Blueprint: Your personalized energetic blueprint for burnout recovery
Got a Question? SUBMIT IT HERE
——————————————————————————
WORK WITH ME
——————————————————————————
Practice by Design (for fully licensed clinicians, $497): https://shawnalovinlpcs.com/work-with-me
LPC Supervision (Texas Associates only, $400/mo): https://shawnalovinlpcs.com/lpc-associate-supervision
Ten Twenty QM (custom tees): www.tentwentyqm.com
FREE Still Human audio series: https://healingrootswab.myflodesk.com/reset
——————————————————————————
FIND ME
——————————————————————————
YouTube: youtube.com/@heyyallitsshawna
Website: shawnalovinlpcs.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyyallitsshawna
Disclaimer: Although Shawna is a licensed counselor in the State of Texas, this podcast is not therapy and should not be used as a therapeutic intervention. Many of the practices and products mentioned are for educational and informational purposes only. Should you need support, please seek appropriate, qualified, and licensed professionals.
View all episodes
By Shawna Lovin, MA, LPCSWhen you set boundaries, somebody always calls you the villain or the problem.
Especially if you’ve been the family’s emotional manager for years.
In this episode, I’m talking about the messy middle of family rupture—when a message looks like love but lands like a summons… and you realize you can’t “repair” with people who are more committed to protecting their self-image than protecting your kids.
I’m paraphrasing personal details on purpose. This isn’t a drag session. It’s a pattern.
We talk about:
How “sweet” texts can still be pressure
Why your body braces before your mind catches up
Relief + guilt (and why that combo is a sign you’re changing something real)
What it means to “break up with the mother wound”
How to stop being the family’s emotional janitor
If you’re a helper who looks fine but feels cooked… welcome.
👉🏾 Everything you need is on my website: www.shawnalovinlpcs.com
➡️ Texas LPC Associates Supervision that keeps you ethical and human
➡️ Messy Middle Blueprint: Your personalized energetic blueprint for burnout recovery
Got a Question? SUBMIT IT HERE
——————————————————————————
WORK WITH ME
——————————————————————————
Practice by Design (for fully licensed clinicians, $497): https://shawnalovinlpcs.com/work-with-me
LPC Supervision (Texas Associates only, $400/mo): https://shawnalovinlpcs.com/lpc-associate-supervision
Ten Twenty QM (custom tees): www.tentwentyqm.com
FREE Still Human audio series: https://healingrootswab.myflodesk.com/reset
——————————————————————————
FIND ME
——————————————————————————
YouTube: youtube.com/@heyyallitsshawna
Website: shawnalovinlpcs.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyyallitsshawna
Disclaimer: Although Shawna is a licensed counselor in the State of Texas, this podcast is not therapy and should not be used as a therapeutic intervention. Many of the practices and products mentioned are for educational and informational purposes only. Should you need support, please seek appropriate, qualified, and licensed professionals.