Sometimes I talk to women who are desperate for a dating solution and are hoping I can deliver the goods.

I can of course, but not in the way they hope.

They want me to provide some kind of magical secret that will help them attract the same kinds of men they dated in their 20’s, even though none of them worked out.

Or let them in on some secret location where only good men hang out so that they can go to those places and just pick one.

Or even tell them a way to make a man (or certain kind of man) who’s not interested in dating them suddenly fall crazy in love with them and propose.

Now I’m not judging these women because I used to be just like them.

At one point in my dating journey, I was actually so desperate for a solution that I bought a book of magic spells and read it.

And I definitely tried all sorts of manifestation and feminine energy tricks and cleaning out my closet and such.

So I really do get it.

But this kind of thing is just plain ineffective.

It’s the equivalent of hoping that if you drink enough berry juice or whatever they’re hawking this week, you’ll magically turn into a 21 year old size 2 with gorgeous thighs by next Thursday.

If you want to find a great guy to share your life with, I promise you he’s out there and you can have this.

I believe that with all my heart.

But the solution is working on yourself and changing the way you date, not stumbling upon some sort of hack that requires no effort or change on your part.

This might seem like bad news, but it really isn’t because when you do this work you will evolve into the version of yourself who is actually capable of having the kind of relationship you want.

If you were this person already, you’d have the relationship already.

When you do the work to become this future version of yourself, you develop new ways of looking at things and new skills.

It will probably be hard and uncomfortable sometimes, but it will also be worth it, just like going to the gym, training for a marathon or developing yourself professionally.

When you decide that you want a great guy enough to do this kind of work, you get the amazing result of not just the guy in your life, but the person you become in the process.

A more mature, grounded, resilient and open-minded version of yourself.

And you stop wasting your time searching for magical hacks that require nothing of you, but don’t really work.

So, will you do it?

If you’d like my help with this, you need to check out my new program “Dating Mastery for Women Over 40”.

It’s open for enrollment right now. 

Just go to https://reneesuzannecoaching.com/mastery