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8-Domestic Violence SURVIVOR and LGBTQ+ ACTIVIST: Ben Bjarnesen


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Imagine being a strong, athletic law enforcement officer, yet feeling trapped and powerless in an abusive relationship. That was the reality for Ben Bjarneson, who bravely shared his experience with domestic violence as a homosexual man. I discuss the three cycles of violence, which include the tension building, acute explosion, and honeymoon phases, and also explore the four stages expanded by psychcentralcom. Listen closely as I uncover the stark differences between a non-abuser's guilt and an abuser's guilt, and understand the impact on their victims.

Ben's courageous story serves as a powerful reminder that anyone can be exposed to domestic violence, regardless of their appearance or profession. 

If you are in Australia and need help, contact DV Connect Womensline at 1800 811 811 -OR- Mensline at 1 800 600 636 -OR- 1800respect. If you need immediate help, contact the police at 000.

Sources:

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUiPWe0Wxzw
  • https://play.qagoma.qld.gov.au/dear-queensland/letter/96/
  • https://www.ted.com/talks/ben_bjarnesen_could_you_be_a_victim_of_domestic_violence
  • https://www.facebook.com/watch/?extid=mJoosKPkfjKliSfV&v=831915884002715
  • https://www.benbjarnesen.com/
  • https://www.dvafoundation.org/
  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSO-SDj-8ag
  • https://au.news.yahoo.com/domestic-violence-survivor-speaks-out-about-community-with-one-of-the-highest-rates-of-abuse-102039636.html
  • https://hopeandsafety.org/
  • https://psychcentral.com/
  • https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/
  • https://nomore.org/learn/bystander-scenarios/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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