What if confronting masculinity required stepping inside it?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with artist Christopher Quigley, whose immersive traveling installation asks men and boys to physically experience how power, consent, and violence are learned—and how quickly harm can unfold.

Across eight sound-sealed bathroom stalls, participants are immersed in scenarios shaped by locker room culture, coercive language, and exhaustion that blurs consent. From a stall where misogyny is passed through jokes and laughter, to the “71 No's” consent experience that challenges the idea of a pressured yes, to the chilling “21-Second” stall that reveals how fast violence can escalate, this work forces reflection not just in the mind—but in the body.

The conversation expands beyond art into prevention, economics, and policy. We unpack the real financial cost of domestic violence, why prevention outperforms awareness campaigns, and how education—especially for legal and community gatekeepers—can interrupt coercive control before it becomes physical harm.

This is art as public health. Art as accountability. And art as a catalyst for cultural change.

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Christopher’s Links:

https://www.alchemiaartworkshop.org/

https://www.tiktok.com/@alchemiaart

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter?

In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly men disengaged from conversations about abuse.

Together, the discussion explores how abuse escalates from subtle control to coercion and violence when harmful behaviors go unchallenged. Anthony offers practical, realistic ways men can interrupt that cycle—without grandstanding—by setting boundaries, shutting down objectifying language, checking in when something feels off, and choosing empathy over silence.

The episode also highlights WINGS, a Chicago-area organization providing safe housing for survivors, children, and pets, along with education on domestic violence, strangulation, and traumatic brain injuries. Anthony explains why memory gaps in survivors may reflect injury rather than inconsistency—and why this understanding is critical for law enforcement, prosecutors, and healthcare providers.

If you’ve ever wondered how to help someone experiencing abuse, this episode offers a grounded framework: be safe, be clear, be steady. You don’t need to be a survivor to stand with survivors—and you don’t need a platform to make a difference.

Anthony’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/anthony-pasquini/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61584143305857

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-pasquini-1a7924238/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Music by Tim Crowe

One in three women will experience domestic violence. But what happens when the survivor wears a badge?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Mia, a law enforcement officer who entered policing at 21 and was groomed, isolated, and assaulted by a senior officer who framed abuse as “consent” and control as “lifestyle.” Her story exposes how coercive control works behind closed doors and inside institutions meant to protect.

We break down the dangerous overlap between domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking, and why survivors are so often failed when systems treat these crimes as separate issues. Mia explains how compliance is rewarded, resistance is punished, and identity is slowly erased until survival is mistaken for choice.

This conversation explores:

• Coercive control and grooming in intimate partner violence
• Why “she could have left” is a myth rooted in misunderstanding trauma
• How trafficking doesn’t always involve money—status, access, and dominance are “things of value”
• Evidence beyond DNA: strangulation markers, threats to career, financial abuse, digital trails, and witness grooming
• Probable cause vs. proof beyond a reasonable doubt and why totality of circumstances matters

Mia also introduces the Valkyrie Warrior Movement, a training initiative focused on trauma-informed investigations, lethality assessments, and survivor-centered practices for law enforcement, healthcare providers, and allied professionals.

For survivors inside and outside the system, this episode delivers a powerful reminder: shame belongs to abusers, not survivors—and help is worth pursuing until you find it.

If this episode resonates, please subscribe, share, and leave a review. Your voice helps others find safety—and accountability.

Mia’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/mia-shagena/

https://www.valkyriemovement.org/

https://www.instagram.com/valkyriewarriormovement/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/mia-shagena-116ab4233/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

When headlines fade, survivors are often left with the aftermath. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, about what really happens behind high-profile domestic violence cases—and how abuse often escalates when someone tries to leave.

Using lessons learned from the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, Norma explains how control, isolation, and intimidation evolve quietly, long before the public ever notices. We explore the legal concept of forfeiture by wrongdoing, which allows a victim’s documented words to be used when they can no longer speak for themselves.

Norma introduces the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA)—a secure, off-device digital documentation tool that allows survivors to safely store photos, texts, emails, and timelines without alerting an abuser. We discuss safety features like quick exits, save-in-progress options, and why notarization can strengthen legal credibility—while emphasizing that documentation alone is a powerful act of protection.

We also honor the legacy of advocate Susan Murphy Milano, whose foresight shaped survivor-centered documentation used today by law enforcement, prosecutors, and medical teams. From QR-code access points to youth-focused protections, this conversation highlights how early documentation can save lives.

If your instincts tell you something isn’t right, documenting the pattern may be the safest next step.

Resources mentioned:
 • Document the Abuse
 • loveisrespect.org

If this episode resonates, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need it today.

Norma’s links: 

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/norma-peterson/

https://documenttheabuse.org/

https://www.instagram.com/documenttheabuse

https://www.youtube.com/@documenttheabuse

https://www.linkedin.com/company/documenttheabuse/

https://www.facebook.com/DocumentTheAbuse

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child.

Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, early red flags during pregnancy, isolation and alcohol-fueled conflict during COVID, and the shift from gaslighting to physical violence. Everything changes when her child discloses the abuse—forcing Becca to make urgent decisions to protect her children and involve law enforcement.

From there, we go inside the criminal justice process, breaking down what survivors rarely hear explained: investigation barriers like hospital privacy laws and unstable housing, how missed leads can stall cases, and how a single Facebook message helped police locate the suspect. Becca explains the long months of court delays, mental health evaluations, a public defender change, and what a tier three sex offender designation and no-contact orders mean for long-term safety.

Beyond the courtroom, this conversation focuses on healing and prevention—how to recognize coercive control early, why abuse often escalates during pregnancy, and what grooming can look like when it hides behind “friendship.” Becca also shares why she’s working to terminate parental rights, how therapy is helping her children regain confidence, and the truth every survivor needs to hear:

It’s not your fault.

If any part of this story mirrors your own, you are not alone.
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Music by Tim Crowe

What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, causing even the most capable people to doubt their own reality.

This conversation breaks down why focusing on labels like narcissist or sociopath can distract from what truly matters: patterns of behavior over time. Dr. Lisa explains why couples counseling is often unsafe in abusive relationships, how therapeutic language can be weaponized, and how spiritual gaslighting keeps survivors over-functioning, compliant, and silent.

Grounded in lived experience, we name the tactics of coercive abuse—including isolation disguised as romance, submission framed as faith, and love bombing used as data mining. Most importantly, we map a way forward. You’ll learn how to recognize coercive control, document behavioral patterns, rebuild financial clarity, and measure real change through sustained actions—not apologies.

Whether you’re staying, questioning, or planning an exit, you deserve informed choices, safety, and a life aligned with your values.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs language for what they’re experiencing. Subscribe, leave a review, and help others find these life-saving conversations.

Dr. Lisa’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/dr-lisa-dawn-fox/

https://www.shadowandsoul.com/

https://www.instagram.com/shadowandsoul_

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlisadawnfox/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Music by Tim Crowe

The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure.

Mia shares practical tools for recognizing abuse, why couples therapy can backfire, and how to safely plan a low-contact exit. She also explores the messy, hopeful work of rebuilding: reclaiming your voice, making independent choices, and finding freedom after abuse.

If you or someone you love is navigating narcissistic abuse, this episode offers validation, guidance, and red flags to watch.

Mia’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/mia-hanks/

https://miajhanks.com/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hHp52nlNorg

https://www.instagram.com/npd.andme/

https://www.amazon.com/Bride-Made-Memoir-Mia-J-Hanks/dp/B0CVC322MF/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.loREoGm50wrUS4v546Y8eKVjM5nQbYpFDitnLmtuIHwXuuS0AATtGKvUqvzg-oalCZuLRigPdqPUkta4OiWzSg.nsfFC9-W7XAl_LEEZgPdfcZMv8SlXPmXvNVFVtshnkc&qid=1752202383&sr=8-1

https://www.tiktok.com/@npdandme

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth?

On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse, for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction.

Kath shares how suppressed memories of childhood sexual abuse resurfaced in adulthood, why survivors often shift their language from “abuse” to “rape,” and how reclaiming accurate words can be a critical step in trauma recovery. She walks us through an 18-month police investigation, the emotional precision required during a four-hour official statement, and a facilitated call with her abuser—a moment that allowed her to reclaim her voice and return misplaced shame.

Together, Ingrid and Kath unpack the myths that keep survivors silent, including the “stranger danger” narrative, misconceptions about what perpetrators look like, and the unrealistic expectation that survivors must present as a “perfect witness.” Kath also explains how poetry and writing became a lifeline—capturing moments of crisis with clarity and helping loved ones fully understand her experience.

This episode explores the layered path to healing from sexual trauma, including talk therapy, somatic work, meditation, medication when needed, and daily practices that support mind, body, and spirit. Kath shares how she transformed resentment into connection through storytelling—and how naming the truth created space for peace.

As a mother, Kath discusses how to break cycles of abuse without fear-mongering: trusting intuition, maintaining open communication with children, and teaching that speaking up is an act of strength. The conversation also covers historical sexual abuse reporting, emerging technology that links survivor reports, and the importance of setting personal goals for reporting to make the process empowering rather than retraumatizing.

If you or someone you love is navigating childhood sexual abuse, suppressed memory, trauma recovery, or reporting historical abuse, this episode offers practical insight, hard-won wisdom, and a grounded reminder: you deserve peace.

If this episode resonates, subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast, share it with someone who needs support, and leave a review to help more survivors find this resource.

Kath’s links:

https://www.bespeak.au/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathessing/

https://www.instagram.com/kath_essing

https://www.facebook.com/bespeakconsultancy

https://www.amazon.com.au/Courage-Speak-Your-Truth-Narrative/dp/0648758060

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Music by Tim Crowe

What if the person most likely to spot early signs of domestic violence isn’t a police officer, clinician, or counselor—but your hairstylist? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with salon owner and advocate Susanne Shepherd Post to reveal how Shear Haven is transforming everyday salon appointments into potentially life-saving interactions through a free, 20-minute domestic violence training.

Susanne shares how a short news clip about an Illinois law sparked a statewide movement in Tennessee. Starting with in-person trainings through the YWCA, she discovered a powerful truth: stylists often hear the earliest indicators of abuse—sudden schedule changes, love-bombing, isolation from friends, controlling partners—long before physical signs ever appear.

The Shear Haven training teaches beauty professionals how to listen without judgment, recognize warning signs of domestic violence, and offer safe, appropriate resources. It emphasizes clear boundaries too: stylists are not therapists or mandatory reporters—just trusted, consistent humans who can hold space and guide someone to help.

When the pandemic halted in-person workshops, Shear Haven partnered with Barbicide to launch a short, accessible online course with global hotline resources. The impact was immediate and worldwide: 160,000+ learners across 100+ countries, with training now offered in English, Spanish, and Vietnamese. Susanne also breaks down recent policy wins, including Tennessee’s requirement that keeps the training free, fast, and accessible, plus the bipartisan federal effort helping other states adopt similar laws.

You’ll also hear how teen-led advocacy, including Burd Beauty’s bottles printed with a QR code linking directly to the training, is helping spark conversations about teen dating violence.

If you’ve ever sensed something was “off” but didn’t know how to interpret it, this episode gives you the signs to watch for, the language to use, and the confidence to support someone safely without causing harm.

 If this conversation resonates, subscribe, share the episode, and leave a review—your one conversation might change a life.

Susanne’s Links: 

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/susanne-shepherd-pos/

https://shearhaventraining.org/

https://www.instagram.com/shearhavenywca?igsh=NHN6MDR4cTZnY2Zr&utm_source=qr

https://www.facebook.com/ShearHavenYWCA?mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=7oX76FP034OX9pHF&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F17AHEY2Unj%2F%3Fmibextid%3DwwXIfr#

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sushepherd/

Burd Beauty:

https://burdbeauty.com/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Music by Tim Crowe

Shame often masquerades as a moral compass—but for many survivors of narcissistic abuse, it becomes the cage that keeps them stuck. In this 1 in 3 episode, Emma breaks down how shame fuels narcissistic abuse, why it fuses with identity, and how it traps survivors in the same relationship patterns even after they leave. She explains the key difference between guilt (which supports repair and growth) and shame (which corrodes empathy, blocks learning, and freezes change).

Emma walks us through her practical BREAK Framework—Break the trance, Refuse to engage, Expose the lie, Anchor the truth, and Kick it out. These tools help survivors interrupt shame in real time, shift out of old conditioning, and reclaim their sense of power. Expect clear language, body-based grounding strategies, and boundary tools that put control back where it belongs: with you.

We also explore how culture rewards shaming as a form of control, why scapegoating spreads through families and institutions, and what it means to become “unshameable”—where projections slide off instead of sinking in. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s sovereignty and self-leadership: humility without humiliation, accountability without self-erasure.

If you’ve ever wondered why beating yourself up has never led to real healing, this conversation offers a new path. Learn how guilt can guide healthy repair and how shame loses its grip when you stop letting it define you. Listen in, try the tools, and share this episode with someone who’s ready to reclaim their power. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to help more survivors find support.

Emma's Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/emma-lyons/

https://www.instagram.com/trauma.matrix

https://www.youtube.com/@trauma.matrix

https://www.facebook.com/trauma.matrix

https://www.linkedin.com/in/emma-lyons-traumamatrix/

https://subscribepage.io/GtaJ5s

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe