Ever catch yourself thinking, “They should really listen to this podcast” or “If only they would read the book”? In this “whole shebang” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine cut straight to the heart of the practice: this work is about you (or me), not fixing everyone else.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

• Why focusing on other people’s saltiness pulls you right into judgment, blame, and your own bad habits.
• How getting triggered by someone’s behavior is the signal you have work to do on your own reactions, not theirs.
• The gift of frustration as a cue to pause, regulate emotions, and choose “act, not react” instead of frothy annoyance.
• How rereading chapters, asking “How can I be my best self today?” and the “prehab” mindset prepare you for anything life throws at you.
• Real stories of letting go of “how come?” spirals, handling cancer diagnoses with gratitude, and turning treatment rooms into places of appreciation.
• A reminder that you control your state of mind and body, no matter what others do or don’t do.

This is the episode that ties it all together: stop pointing fingers outward and turn the energy toward becoming more of your best self every day. Perfect for a reset or anyone who needs the “kit and caboodle” in one listen.

Helpful Links:

• Be the Sun, Not the Salt book by Dr. Harry Cohen (read a chapter daily for your prehab practice)
• Ethan Kross episode on emotional regulation (distanced self-talk, cooling your jets, and metabolizing triggers)

To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.