Adi (Christian) and Casey (Agnostic) discuss the topic of forgiveness. They explore the definition of forgiveness, the challenges of forgiving, and the importance of understanding and empathy in the process. They also touch on the role of faith in forgiveness and the impact of past experiences on one's ability to forgive. The conversation highlights the complexity of forgiveness and the need for personal growth and self-reflection in order to let go of anger and resentment.

Keywords: forgiveness, understanding, empathy, faith, past experiences, letting go, anger, resentment

Resources Mentioned

Old School Episode 20: 8000 Promises with Adi Tilford

Mercy - Live, Bethel Music, Amanda Cook

Nadia Boltz Webber - “ Forgive Assholes” 

Find Casey at https://www.facebook.com/casey.rippy/

You can find me on Instagram at ⁠AdiTilfordWrites⁠, Facebook at ⁠AdiTilford-Author ⁠and at my website ⁠AdiTilford.com.⁠

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In this conversation, Janielle shares her story of forgiveness after experiencing childhood trauma. She discusses the importance of forgiveness in the healing process and how it lifts the weight of anger and resentment. Janielle emphasizes the role of God in guiding her through forgiveness and the need to trust Him. She also highlights the significance of boundaries and self-care in the forgiveness journey. Janielle's story serves as a reminder that forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but rather letting go and finding wholeness.

Janielle Westermire is a native of the Grand Valley on the Western Slope in Colorado. She is 5 generation and comes from a strong family of faith and love for God. She is widowed and has three wonderful adult children and 3 amazing grandchildren.

Connect with Janielle at her email: [email protected]

You can find me on Instagram at ⁠AdiTilfordWrites⁠, Facebook at ⁠AdiTilford-Author ⁠and at my website ⁠AdiTilford.com.⁠

Are you loving what you hear and want to help financially support the production of this podcast? You can contribute through this link: ⁠https://anchor.fm/adi-tilford/support⁠

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Resources: 

Louder Than Silence: Providing Survivors with Community and Resources they need to rebuild their lives

“Delayed Disclosure of Child Sex Abuse: Why Children Don’t Tell”

Nadia Boltz Webber - “ Forgive Assholes” 

Takeaways

Forgiveness is a crucial part of the healing process and lifts the weight of anger and resentment.

Trusting in God and letting go of control are essential in the forgiveness journey.

Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but rather setting boundaries and practicing self-care.

Sharing our stories of forgiveness can inspire and help others on their own forgiveness journey.

God's love and guidance are always present, even in the most difficult times.

Keywords

forgiveness, healing, trauma, childhood, God's guidance, trust, boundaries, self-care, wholeness

S 5: E 64 Born to Be Queen Part II: Born to Be Queen

Born to Be Queen Part I: The Lost Crown

Part I:Read it Here: AdiTilford.com

Part II: Read it Here: AdiTilford.com/blog

In this episode, Adi Tilford shares part two of her therapeutic story, 'Born to be Queen.' The story follows a young girl who experiences harm in the desert and gives up her crown. As she grows up and becomes a mother, she tries to protect her child from the desert by following a map. However, her worst fear comes true when her child is dragged into the desert. In her despair, she meets a gardener who shows her the beauty on the other side of the thorns and helps her reclaim her crown.

Takeaways

Therapeutic storytelling can help individuals process and integrate healing truths about their own experiences.

Forgiveness often involves forgiving oneself and reclaiming one's worthiness.

There is beauty and growth on the other side of pain and despair.

Books by Susan Perrow: Healing Stories for Challenging Behavior, Therapeutic Storyteling: 101 Healing Stories for Children

You can find me on Instagram at ⁠AdiTilfordWrites⁠, Facebook at ⁠AdiTilford-Author ⁠and at my website ⁠AdiTilford.com.⁠

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8000 Promises host, Adi Tilford and comedian Monique Bellamy, explore the heavy topic of forgiveness and moving forward after experiencing harm. Monique shares her personal journey, highlighting the importance of laughter in difficult times and discussing complex issues like social media's influence, personal struggles, and the process of forgiveness. She emphasizes how humor has been a vital tool in her healing process and in facing life's challenges. Additionally, Monique touches on her experiences with alcoholism, the importance of community in overcoming personal struggles, and how she employs comedy to navigate and express complex emotions and experiences. The conversation concludes with a focus on the simple delights in life, illustrating the importance of finding joy amid hardship.

00:00 Opening Greetings and the Power of Laughter

01:22 A Light-hearted Interlude: The Selfie Dilemma

06:36 Introducing Monique Bellamy: A Journey of Identity and Faith

17:25 Exploring Forgiveness: From Personal Struggles to Universal Challenges

31:40 Unpacking Forgiveness and Its Complex Layers

32:47 The Role of Family in the Forgiveness Journey

33:59 Breaking the Cycle: Forgiveness as a Daily Offering

38:38 Navigating Triggers and Boundaries in Forgiveness

45:42 The Healing Power of Humor and Community

58:16 Embracing Delight: Finding Joy in the Everyday

Connect with Monique Bellamy on her instagram account @moniquebcomedy

You can find me on Instagram at ⁠AdiTilfordWrites⁠, Facebook at ⁠AdiTilford-Author ⁠and at my website ⁠AdiTilford.com.⁠

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Resources mentioned in the show:

Reel life —> Real Life by Monique Bellamy

Nadia Boltz Webber - “ Forgive Assholes” 

Courtney is an author, speaker and teacher. She has been through a lot in your life and now uses this wisdom to empower and inspire others to go on their own healing and recovery journeys with the Lord. Her resilience and belief in God's promises for her life have kept her going through the hardest times. She now shares these techniques, and experiences with others. You can read today’s writing by heading to Courtney’s blog: https://www.the-colorful-table.com/blogposts/forgiveness

To support Courtney Carlson and her ministry, as well as check out her current books and resources, click here: The-colorful-table.com

You can find me on Instagram at ⁠AdiTilfordWrites⁠, Facebook at ⁠AdiTilford-Author ⁠and at my website ⁠AdiTilford.com.⁠

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Saying Yes! To Relationship in the Healing Journey with Courtney Carlson

In this episode of the 8000 Promises podcast, host Adi converses with Nicole Williams, a forgiveness coach, writer, and author, exploring the sensitive and profound subject of forgiveness. Nicole shares her personal journey of forgiveness with her mother, emphasizing how understanding and seeing the image of God in others can lead to transformative healing and forgiveness. The discussion delves into the challenges and misconceptions surrounding forgiveness, highlighting the difference between forgiving as a one-time act and viewing it as a continuous, grace-filled journey. Nicole offers insights into her work as a forgiveness coach, including the importance of identity in Christ, setting boundaries, and employing practical techniques for healing. She also introduces her upcoming course, 'Forgiveness School,' designed to help individuals find freedom from unforgiveness. Throughout the episode, Nicole underscores the significance of empathy, compassion, and seeing God's image in everyone for fostering true forgiveness and healing.

00:00 Welcome to the 8,000 Promises Podcast: A Tender Topic of Forgiveness

00:36 A Lighthearted Start: Would You Rather Sing or Dance?

03:36 Nicole's Journey to Becoming a Forgiveness Coach

04:58 The Transformative Power of Seeing God in Others

11:40 Defining Forgiveness and Its Continuous Journey

18:12 The Role and Impact of a Forgiveness Coach

25:57 Exploring Forgiveness and Personal Growth

26:41 Improving Communication and Setting Boundaries

30:00 The Difference Between a Coach and a Counselor

34:31 Facing the Struggle with Forgiveness

43:55 Unveiling the Course on Forgiveness

47:29 A Personal Delight: The Power of Empathy

*Shownotes were generated by Descript AI

Resources:Atul Gawande “Why Everbody Needs a Coach”

Instagram: https://instagram.com/ms.nicolewilliams

Facebook: https://facebook.com/nicolewilliamsauthor

TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@msnicolewilliams

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ms.nicolewilliams

Website: https://msnicolewilliams.com

Start Tiny: 7 Habits to Forgive & Be Free: https://msnicolewilliams.com/start-tiny

Book: https://www.amazon.com/RISE-UP-Believing-World-Falling/dp/B08KJXJQSH

You can find me on Instagram at ⁠AdiTilfordWrites⁠, Facebook at ⁠AdiTilford-Author ⁠and at my website ⁠AdiTilford.com.⁠

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Adoptee Sara Easterly, Birth Parent Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, and Adoptive Parent Lori Holden join host Adi Tilford in a discussion focusing on the theme of forgiveness within the context of adoption. The authors of Adoption Unfiltered explore the complex emotional landscapes of adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents, utilizing Dr. Gordon Neufeld's metaphor of a traffic circle to illustrate the process of frustration, adaptation, grief, and attack when unaddressed emotional needs fester. Each guest shares their personal journeys and struggles with grief, loss, and the necessity of facing one's emotions to heal and forgive, emphasizing the importance of feeling sadness to move towards forgiveness.

The conversation highlights varied methods that the guests use to connect with their emotions, including engaging with animals, enjoying nature, indulging in sad media content, and creating intentional quiet moments. Towards the end, the participants reflect on moments of delight in their lives, illustrating the significance of recognizing simple pleasures amidst complex emotional experiences. The overall discussion underscores the critical role of understanding, processing grief, and the ongoing nature of forgiveness in the adoption triad's journey towards healing and connection.

00:00 Welcome to 8000 Promises: A Conversation on Forgiveness

00:54 Would You Rather: Funniest or Smartest?

04:04 Introducing the Guests: Stories of Adoption and Identity

05:13 Sara's Journey:  Developing Adoption Consciousness

09:17 Kelsey's Perspective: A Birth Parent's Experience 

13:45 Lori's Insights: An Adoptive Parent Navigating Adoption's Complexities

18:25 Exploring Forgiveness in the Adoption Narrative

30:24 Navigating Grief and Loss: Insights and Personal Stories

32:56 The Power of Sadness in Healing and Forgiveness

36:22 Embracing Forgiveness in Adoption: A Deep Dive

42:58 Finding Peace Through Feeling: Strategies and Personal Experiences

54:42 Simple Pleasures: Sharing Moments of Delight

Links: 

AdoptionUnfiltered.com

YouTube video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@AdoptionUnfiltered/videos

Audio podcast: search your platform for Adoption Unfiltered

Sara: SaraEasterly.com and Adoptee-Voices.com

Kelsey: AdoptChange.org and the Twisted Sisterhood podcast

Lori:LavenderLuz.com and Adoption: The Long View podcast

Instagram:

@adoptionunfiltered

@saraeasterlyauthor

@fromanothamotha

@lavluz

You can find me on Instagram at AdiTilfordWrites, Facebook at AdiTilford-Author and at my website AdiTilford.com.

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Rule of Life: Printable PDF 

Harvest Reflection Guide: Printable PDF

Sally shares her reflective writing on the journey of forgiveness in the Ignite Insight episode!

Hi there, I’m Sally Henry.  I am wife to Kim, mother of Sarah and Sean and grandmother of three crazy boys: Rilo, Rocco and Vito. I also have two sisters who sandwich me and I love dearly. I am a writer, pastor, musician and listener.  As an Enneagram 9, I love having people in our home, cooking for friends and family, having meaningful conversations and doing work that makes a difference.  I am an ordained Presbyterian minister, but currently work as a behavioral health care coordinator working with families who have children coming out of mental health crises. Kim and I host a house church every other week in our home, I’ve taken up lap swimming to be active and work out stress and therapy to keep chipping away at all those things that keep me from being truly whole. I turned 60 in 2023, and it was my best birthday yet.  I don’t do “churchy talk” and I’m usually 5-7 years behind the latest trends (be they clothing, social media or catchy phrases). I believe in transparency and sharing our stories because that’s how we learn from each other and grow as individuals, and I’ve been sharing my sh$% for a long time now. Oh, and I try to sometimes filter for the sake of others (that’s the Enneagram 9 in me), but sometimes a good f-bomb is what’s appropriate.  Sorry not sorry. 

Read Sally’s Essay The Henry Adventure

Connect with Sally on Instagram 

You can find me on Instagram at AdiTilfordWrites, Facebook at AdiTilford-Author and at my website AdiTilford.com. 

Are you loving what you hear and want to help financially support the production of this podcast? You can contribute through this link: https://anchor.fm/adi-tilford/support

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Rule of Life: Printable PDF 

Harvest Reflection Guide: Printable PDF

Anam Cara by Adi Tilford on Substack

Episodes You might Like:

Living in the Kingdom for Real with Sally Henry

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In this episode of '8,000 Promises,' host Adi Tilford, alongside guests Tiffany (Tiff) and Jayme, delve into the profound topic of forgiveness within the Christian faith. Tiffany, a respiratory therapist, mom, and soon-to-be-published author, and Jayme, an amazing mom deeply involved in Young Life, share their personal journeys and struggles with understanding and practicing forgiveness. The discussion evolves to a deeper exploration of what forgiveness truly means, especially in challenging times. They ponder the difference between forgiving as God does—instantly and completely—and human forgiveness, which they note as a process filled with struggle, repeated efforts, and sometimes, shame for not achieving immediate closure. Additionally, the group discusses the concept of forgiveness as not just a one-time act but a repeated choice to let go of bitterness and anger, with God's help. Touching on forgiveness in the context of both interpersonal relationships and broader social injustices, they clarify that forgiveness does not necessarily imply restored trust or relationship. The episode closes with reflections on delight in daily life and the metaphorical packing of one's wounds with love, truth, and God's goodness as a way to heal and find freedom in forgiveness.

00:00 Welcome to Another Episode of 8,000 Promises

00:06 Introducing the Nerdy Bible Girls

02:34 Exploring the Complexities of Forgiveness

04:41 The Process of Forgiveness: Insights and Reflections

09:56 Forgiveness as a Continuous Journey

15:51 The Role of God in the Process of Forgiveness

21:01 Exploring Forgiveness and Relationship Healing

21:46 The Complex Nature of Forgiveness and Trust

22:35 Spiritual Insights on Forgiveness

23:19 Healing Wounds: A Metaphor for Forgiveness

25:38 The Journey of Forgiveness and Letting Go

26:56 Scriptural Reflections and Personal Growth

30:27 The Power of Naming and Trusting in God's Process

39:44 Embracing God's Truth and Love in Healing

44:01 Sharing Delights and Reflecting on God's Goodness

You can find me on Instagram at AdiTilfordWrites, Facebook at AdiTilford-Author and at my website AdiTilford.com. Keep up with tips for living into the promises for you  life and the latest news on the pod by subscribe to my newsletter Rule of Life: Printable PDF  Harvest Reflection Guide: Printable PDF Anam Cara by Adi Tilford on Substack

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Want to connect with Jayme? Email her at [email protected]

What about Tiff? Give her a follow and  DM her on instagram! @tiffanyhaifleywriter

Resources Mentioned:
Bema Discipleship Podcast with Marty Solomon: Episode 108: The Fruit of Beelzebul