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#81: Quiet Divorcing: Are You Emotionally Checked Out?


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In this episode of Love for Life, Nichole and Ben tackle the phenomenon that is quiet divorcing. The term describes what relationship researchers have documented for decades but finally has a name that resonates the slow, mostly invisible retreat from a long-term relationship while staying legally married.

January sees an 80% spike in divorce applications compared to the rest of the year, but the real story isn't what happens in January. It's what's been happening quietly for months or years before. Ben and Nichole break down what quiet divorcing actually looks like: emotional flatlining, the absence of physical affection, parallel lives where partners operate in separate worlds, and perhaps most tellingly, indifference replacing conflict 

This episode is essential for couples who feel more like roommates than partners, anyone who feels more alone with their partner than when actually alone, or those wondering if the lack of fighting actually means everything's fine. 

Nichole and Ben walk through seven red flags that signal quiet divorcing, reveal the hidden costs of staying in emotional limbo, and provide a clear framework for deciding whether to repair or prepare to leave. With research showing indifference is a more reliable predictor of relationship breakdown than conflict, this conversation challenges the dangerous assumption that not fighting means you're fine.


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