Talk to Nichole and Ben.

 In this episode, Nichole and Ben tackle one of the most explosive conflicts in modern relationships: the mental load debate. When one partner insists they're doing everything asked while the other feels like they're managing a household alone, who's right? If you've ever found yourself in a standoff over whether you should have to ask your partner to notice the overflowing bin, or you're exhausted from feeling like your home's project manager while your partner waits for instructions, this conversation will change everything. Nichole and Ben unpack why being helpful isn't the same as being an equal partner, what it really means to own a task versus just execute it, and how to shift from "just tell me what needs doing" to genuinely sharing the invisible work of running a home and family. This is honest marriage talk about emotional labor, household management, partnership equality, and how to stop fighting about housework and start building a relationship where both people feel seen, supported, and truly in it together. No task spreadsheets required - just real practical advice from a couple living it. 

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

 In this episode of Love for Life, Ben and Nichole are discussing the new film The Materialists, where Dakota Johnson must choose between the broke ex-boyfriend (Chris Evans) or the rich guy (Pedro Pascal), and why the internet's obsession with Team Love versus Team Security is asking completely the wrong question. The real question isn't whether you should marry for love or money, it's what actually makes marriages successful, and why thirty years of relationship research shows that neither chemistry nor financial security alone will save you when life gets hard.  If you've ever wondered whether love is enough, how to build relationship foundations that actually last, or why neither option in The Materialists is the right choice, this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about choosing a life partner and building a marriage that thrives in the real world. 

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

What does it mean when someone needs a screen more than they need you? We're talking about the partner who claims they need to decompress but really they're choosing to disconnect. The promises to change that last two days. The kids who stop trying to get their parent's attention because they've learned a phone matters more. The loneliness that grows when someone is sitting right next to you but completely absent. Is this about healthy boundaries and downtime or is it about avoiding intimacy? What are we really protecting when we defend our right to scroll? And when does a habit become a choice to abandon your family every single evening? This one made us look at our own patterns and it wasn't comfortable. 

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

Divorce improves women's lives when it comes to housework. Marriage improves men's.

Female breadwinners do MORE housework than their unemployed male partners. After divorce, women's domestic workload drops. Men's increases.

One economist looked at these numbers, did the math on her own marriage, and made a shocking decision: stop dating men entirely. Not out of anger. Out of economics.

Dr. Corinne Low's research on gender economics is forcing us to ask a question nobody wants to answer: are heterosexual relationships actually worth it for women anymore?

In this episode Nichole & Ben discuss:

• The divorce paradox that reveals what men are really capable of
• Why the "mental load" is actually a structural problem, not a communication issue
• What same-sex couples do differently (and why it matters)
• The motherhood trap that's making women feel like failures no matter what they do
• Why "heteropessimism" is rising among smart, successful women
• What needs to change if heterosexual partnerships are going to survive

The data is brutal. The conversation is necessary. And if you're in a relationship where someone's doing more than their fair share, you already know exactly what we're talking about.

Are you ready to hear what the numbers really say? Listen now.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

When did we start calling 'surviving' a marriage success?

This week, Nichole and Ben respond to a powerful listener confession: "Am I the arsehole for wanting more from my marriage?" She's being told by everyone - her mum, her sister, the internet to "focus on the good" and accept that "this is just what marriage is like." But she sees other couples who are genuinely happy and wonders: surely there has to be more than this?

In this episode, they break down why we've normalised relationship mediocrity, the three warning signs you're settling for dysfunction, and what to do when everyone's telling you to lower your standards.

If you've ever been made to feel dramatic for wanting connection, or guilty for expecting your partner to actually show up emotionally this one's for you.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

In this episode, Ben and Nichole dive into one of the biggest challenges couples face, when parenting styles don't align. They share their own heated arguments about handling children's behaviour and explore shocking research showing 20.3% of UK children now have probable mental health disorders, up 70% since 2017.

With 74% of millennial parents practicing gentle parenting globally but only 46% believing it works, there's clearly a disconnect. They discuss how the neurodiversity revolution is changing parenting expectations, the pressure of social media perfection, and cultural complexities in UK families. The biggest revelation? Research shows cooperation between parents matters more than identical styles - it's better to work together imperfectly than against each other perfectly.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

Ben and Nichole dive into why micro-romance is revolutionising relationships and why your brain craves it more than grand gestures.

What if everything you think you know about romance is wrong? Discover the shocking 86% statistic that's redefining how we show love, plus the neuroscience behind why your brain decides trust in just 100 milliseconds. Ben and Nichole unpack ground-breaking Gottman research proving small beats big every time.

From micro-touch to micro-support, learn how tiny moments build trust faster than dramatic declarations and when grand gestures actually backfire. Ready to transform your relationship? 

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

Porn isn’t just a private habit, it’s one of the biggest unspoken forces shaping modern love, intimacy, and even how kids learn about sex.

In this raw conversation, Nichole and Ben ask the questions most couples avoid:

• Is porn killing connection or can it actually save desire?
• What’s it really teaching our kids about sex, consent, and relationships?
• Why are so many couples in a “sex slump”… and how do you get out of it?
• And the truth about secrecy, shame, and what really destroys trust.

If you’ve ever wondered how porn impacts relationships, marriage, parenting, or intimacy, this episode will challenge what you think you know and give you tools to start the conversations that matter.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

Forget January. For parents, September is the real new year. Back-to-school doesn’t just mean new uniforms and routines it’s a chance to reset your family, your relationship, and yourself for the next six months.

In this episode, Nichole and Ben dive into why September is the most important moment to pause, reset, and set intentions. You’ll learn how to stop slipping into survival mode and start building a rhythm that works for you, your kids, and your relationship.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why September is the true reset button for families (and why January doesn’t cut it)
• The 3 big resets every couple needs right now: time, energy, and connection
• How to tackle the invisible mental load that steals 30+ hours a week (and your intimacy)
• Why 80% of parents feel anxious about back-to-school and how to beat it

This isn’t about adding more to your plate. It’s about taking control of your next six months, embedding healthy routines, and working together as a couple so you don’t burn out before Christmas.

Whether you want more connection, calm, or clarity, this episode will give you the reset you’ve been craving.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

What would happen if you and your partner had to meet now—on a dating app, with kids, baggage, and all? Would you still swipe right?

In this episode Nichole and Ben get brutally honest about dating in 2025 and what it really takes to find (and keep) love when you’re a parent.

Here’s what we get into:

• Dating apps in 2025 → why parents call them “a minefield” and what it really takes to stand out.
• Dating with kids → the biggest mistakes single mums and dads make, and whether it’s easier to date someone who also has children.
• Blended families → the hard truth about introducing new partners and what kids actually need.
• Chemistry vs. compatibility → which one really matters long-term (and how we nearly didn’t make it past date two).
• Our love story → the sparks, the doubts, and what almost stopped us from being here today.

This episode is for anyone navigating modern dating, blended families, remarriage, or simply wondering how their relationship would stack up today.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to [email protected]
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
Catch every episode → Love for Life Podcast