Visionary's Pursuit

83. Why Do You Keep Attracting Difficult Clients?

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Episode Summary

I have a theory that may sound a bit harsh... but stick with me. Most of the time, difficult clients are a symptom of bad leadership. Yes, hard people exist in the world. Yes, some clients will push every boundary you have. But when I peek behind the curtain of a business that's drowning in difficult client situations, I almost always find the same three things missing. In this episode, I walk through what those three things are and how to start rebuilding them. If you've been resenting your clients lately, or if you've been tolerating misalignment because you're scared the next client won't come, this one is for you.

Key Takeaways

  • Difficult clients are usually a symptom of three things missing in your leadership: clarity, ownership, and follow-through. Hard people exist, but when difficult clients become the norm, the work is on you
  • Most founders haven't actually defined their ideal client beyond someone who can pay. Values alignment, communication style, payment behavior, scope clarity, and the energy you feel working with them all belong on that list
  • Saying yes to clients out of scarcity is one of the most expensive habits in business. You over-accommodate, lose money on scope, and build resentment toward the work you used to love
  • The manual is a tool I learned at the Life Coach School. It's the unconscious set of expectations we carry for how others should behave. The two problems with it are that we rarely communicate it, and even when we do, people are still going to be people
  • Even when a client crosses one of your boundaries, you are not a victim to their choices. You get to decide how to respond, whether that's holding the line or extending grace, and that decision needs to come from leadership rather than fear
  • Follow-through is where most founders break down. They get clear, they communicate the rules, and then they go quiet the moment a client pushes back because they're scared of the difficult conversation
  • You can fire clients. In 15 years of coaching, I've fired maybe two, and both times it was because I knew the work wasn't serving them. You can hold a hard line and still stay in connection and integrity with the person across from you

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      Visionary's PursuitBy Carolina Zuleta