The Art of We

83. Why You Shouldn’t Love Your Partner Exactly The Way They Are


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Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss why loving a partner exactly the way they are may not be compatible with growth and support in a relationship. They argue that unconditional love can become a cop-out for not truly supporting one another to step into their greatest potential, and that growth as a couple requires the willingness to acknowledge and address blind spots together. 

Listen in to hear about:

  • The importance of challenging each other to grow and expand
  • Where couples get stuck in their partnership
  • Creating the context in relationship to support each other to see blind spots
  • Examples of how to approach one another with a challenge
  • Communication skills for healthy relationships
  • Taking on the role of holding our partners to live into their greatest expression

Resources Mentioned: 

  • Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 
  • Bessel Van Der Kolk
  • Episode on Navigating Introvert-Extrovert Partnership

Get in Touch: 

  • The Art Of We Website
  • 3 Game Changing Conversations Every Couple Must Have
  • The Art of We Instagram 
  • Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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