In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily debunks five pervasive sex myths that may be holding you back from experiencing your best intimate life. From the "body count" obsession to orgasm pressure, we explore why these common beliefs are not only wrong but potentially harmful to your sexual confidence and relationships.

We dive deep into why the number of sexual partners doesn't determine your skill as a lover, the truth about natural lubrication and arousal, and how focusing solely on orgasms can actually prevent you from having them. Dr. Emily also addresses vibrator myths, explaining why sex toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and breaks down outdated beliefs about anal play that keep people from exploring new dimensions of pleasure.

Featuring listener questions from Francesca, Josh, Taylor, Melissa, and Nicole, this episode provides practical advice for navigating sexual insecurities, communication with partners, and expanding your intimate repertoire. Whether you're dealing with dryness, struggling to reach climax, or curious about introducing new elements to your sex life, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance.

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This episode emphasizes that great sex is about communication, presence, and understanding your own body—not conforming to arbitrary standards or myths that create unnecessary pressure and shame.

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In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure.

We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture.

This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure.

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Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure.

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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

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00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia

00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety

04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma

07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics

10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory

13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment

15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics

17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility

20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners

22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought

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This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships.

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00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions

00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication

06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks

09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs

15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive

18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues

21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life

24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues

29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex

44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy

55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues

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In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life.

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In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure.

Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure.

Timestamps:

00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure

00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity

10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping

14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration

20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug

23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice

32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release

43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing

46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential

01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation

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This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility.

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Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion

00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships

05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities

08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong

10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots

13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count

15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences

18:13 - Reframing the Conversation

22:44:04 - Ditching the Question

25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities

37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro

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This episode of "Sex with Emily" dives deep into the psychology and practice of foreplay, redefining it as encompassing all forms of connection, not just physical acts preceding intercourse. We discuss the importance of arousal, highlighting physiological differences between men and women and emphasizing the brain's role as the largest sex organ.

This episode features practical tips for enhancing intimacy using all five senses, incorporating various sensual aids, and exploring different forms of touch and communication.

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Show Notes:

00:02:50 - Foreplay: Psychology & Importance

03:49 - Foreplay & Gender Differences

10:04:20 - Secrets to Great Sex

13:29 - Setting the Mood: Five Senses

16:22 - Enhancing Foreplay & Sensory Play

19:43 - Enhancing Intimacy & Communication

22:26 - Intimacy Beyond Penetration

25:27 - Improving Sex Life & Teasing

28:14 - Reciprocated Foreplay & Issues

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In this episode of Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily takes a deep dive into the evolving landscape of infidelity in 2025. She unpacks how cheating today goes far beyond physical acts—covering emotional connections, digital interactions like DMs, social media behaviors, and even fantasies. Dr. Emily challenges listeners to rethink old assumptions and instead foster open conversations about boundaries, values, and intimacy, drawing insights from how polyamorous relationships navigate these topics.

With real-life stories, listener questions, and expert advice from holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, this episode explores the impact of porn, the gray areas of "micro-cheating," and how communication can prevent betrayal. Dr. Emily also shares strategies for healing after trust is broken, including key statistics, self-reflection practices, and tips to understand your attachment style.

#relationship #dating #cheating

Show Notes:

00:03:15 - Defining Infidelity in Relationships

08:12 - Relationship Boundaries & Communication

13:41 - Marriage Insecurities & Betrayal

19:19 - Confessions of a Reformed Cheater

22:31 - Open Relationships & Cheating

25:00 - Regret, Empathy & Modern Love

35:38 - Overcoming Relationship Hurdles

38:28 - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

45:44 - Monogamy, Polyamory & Attachment

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In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido.

Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples.

The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships.

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00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact

03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey

06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire

12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness

15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift

18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations

20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality

25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching

32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image

47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia

54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats

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