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By Amy Baldwin and April Lampert| Pleasure Podcasts
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We talk a lot about long-term couples growing together emotionally—but what happens when their physical selves begin to change, too? As we age, our bodies change, and those changes can have a real impact on intimacy, confidence, sexual function, and relationships. In this episode, we take an honest and often lighthearted look at what happens to both women and men as they grow older—and why these changes are something couples should face together, rather than allowing them to create insecurity, doubt, or blame. We’re joined by Dr. Castillo, a fellowship-trained Female Pelvic Medicine specialist and the founder and director of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos, California. Dr. Castillo brings extensive expertise in the changes that can occur as a consequence of childbirth, aging, and menopause, as well as the emerging treatments designed to improve sexual health and overall quality of life. We start with women, exploring some of the most common changes in sexual function that occur with age, including the impact of menopause and shifting hormones. We also talk about the enormous beauty standards women face—and whether men might need to start “playing the game” a little more when it comes to maintaining their physical health and appearance. Then we turn the conversation toward men. What changes can they expect as they age? What treatments and options are available? And, yes, we even ask the question you may have been wondering about: Are penile fillers for increased girth actually a thing? Most importantly, this conversation is about removing the shame and stigma surrounding sexual health. Aging doesn't have to mean giving up intimacy, confidence, or connection. Understanding what is happening to our bodies—and knowing that there are options—can help couples approach these changes with compassion, humor, and a willingness to work through them together. About our guest: Dr. Castillo completed his OB/GYN residency at St. Barnabas Medical Center in New Jersey before completing a three-year fellowship in Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery and Female Pelvic Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation. After five years of clinical practice at Kaiser Permanente, where he oversaw resident research and education and taught medical students as an Assistant Clinical Professor at Stanford University, he founded the first private Intimate Wellness Center in the San Francisco Bay Area. Dr. Castillo remains actively involved in clinical research and serves on several women's health advisory boards, helping shape emerging therapies and advanced treatment protocols for conditions that affect intimacy and quality of life. His mission is to address the root causes of common symptoms associated with aging while empowering women to embrace longevity and helping erase the stigma surrounding female sexual health through education, seminars, and compassionate care. To learn more go to https://swanmd.com, and mention Shameless Sex for a special gift. And click here to set up a free 15 minute consult to discover if you are in menopause Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Follow us on IG @shamelesssexpodcast Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Get 45% off our favorite ethical (and educatonal) porn with code PLEASURE at http://erikalust.com — that’s Erika with a K Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at https://swanmd.com + mention Shameless Sex for a discount

In this episode, we’re joined by Regena Thomashauer—better known as Mama Gena—to explore the transformative power of surrender, pleasure, and living fully on your own terms. Regena is the founder of the School of Womanly Arts and the author of the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation. For more than 25 years, she has taught hundreds of thousands of women around the world to reclaim pleasure, desire, and sovereign power as the foundation of a fully lived life. Her newest book, On Our Knees, invites us to reconsider surrender—not as submission or giving away our power, but as a radical way of reclaiming it. We talk about what surrender really means, why it can be especially powerful for women, and how it differs from silence, submission, or simply giving in. Regena shares practical advice for anyone who struggles to surrender, along with simple ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming. We also explore her idea of “hard milestones”—the divorce, heartbreak, illness, and other experiences we often interpret as failures, but that can instead become profound turning points. Along the way, we discuss why pleasure isn’t frivolous or indulgent, but part of the real work of creating a meaningful life. Regena offers five ways women can feel more at home in their own lives, practical strategies for getting through the worst possible day, and her thoughts on whether these lessons apply to men, too. We also unpack her distinction between becoming “The Courtesan” rather than “The Seductress,” and what can happen when women stop performing for others and begin living from their own desire and authority. Regena Thomashauer is an icon, teacher, author, mother, and one of the pioneers in the study and practice of pleasure. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Times of London, Good Morning America, and The Today Show. On Our Knees is her fifth book, published by Hay House on August 25, 2026. Prepare for a conversation about surrender, resilience, pleasure, power, and what it means to truly feel at home in your own life. Learn more about Regena aka Mama Gena and her work at http://mamagenas.com Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Follow us on IG @shamelesssexpodcast Other links: Get 10% off getting turned on by Drive Boost with code SHAMELESS at https://vb.health Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SHAMELESS at https://www.oneskin.co/shameless Get 45% off our favorite ethical (and educatonal) porn with code PLEASURE at http://erikalust.com — that’s Erika with a K Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at https://swanmd.com + mention Shameless Sex for a discount

Why are some people so against eating pussy? In this episode, we dive into the conversation happening around masculinity, pleasure, and what’s really behind people’s attitudes toward giving and receiving oral sex. Amy and Shaun Galanos, love coach, The Love Drive podcast host, and writer, explore the “ROI” of being a generous, attentive lover — and why learning how to create pleasure can transform confidence, intimacy, and connection. Because great sex isn’t just about technique; it starts with how you show up, your willingness to communicate, and your ability to stay curious about your partner’s experience. Shaun shares his journey of learning to love giving oral sex, while Amy opens up about her own journey of learning to love receiving it. Together, they unpack why some people don’t enjoy oral sex, what barriers might be getting in the way, and how we can approach pleasure with more openness and less pressure. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why energy, presence, and emotional connection matter before any technique A beginner-friendly anatomy lesson to better understand vulvar pleasure Practical tips from both the giver and receiver perspectives How to communicate your desires without shame or awkwardness What to do when you want more oral sex from your partner How to navigate situations where one partner isn’t interested How to ask for changes in technique — like more pressure, less pressure, different pacing, or more variety — while keeping intimacy at the center Shaun Galanos brings over a decade of experience helping people have more honest, playful conversations about sex, love, and dating. Through coaching, storytelling, and his work around emotional courage and modern masculinity, Shaun helps people embrace vulnerability, communicate their desires, and create deeper connections. Learn more about Shaun and listen to his fantastic podcast The Love Drive here: https://pod.link/1355859570 Check out his Substack: https://shaungalanos.substack.com Follow him on IG @thelovedrive Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Follow us on IG @shamelesssexpodcast Other links: Get 10% off getting turned on by Drive Boost with code SHAMELESS at https://vb.health Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 15% off our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

This bonus episode was recorded during a fabulous female-led (meaning women make the first move) hedonism meets glamour cruise in the gorgeous Mediterranean put on by Killing Kittens. For six days and nights Amy and her parter taught workshops such as How to Pamper Your Partner, Oral Sex 101, Dirty Talk Murder Mystery, and more - all while visiting stunning locations such as Mallorca, Monte Carlo, Florence and Portofino. This episode includes an interview with an adventurous couple who share their experiences on their first sexy cruise. From explorations in the dungeon to working with a professional Domme to making new friends, this episode gives you a sneak peak into what really goes on behind the scenes on a female-led hedonistic cruise - Killing Kittens Style. To learn more about Killing Kittens and their upcoming offerings (they have a number of cruises coming up in 2027 including another Mediterranean voyage - only this time it goes to Croatia!): https://kkcruise.com https://www.killingkittens.com See you on the next cruise! Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Follow us on IG @shamelesssexpodcast Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 15% off our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

If you're curious about kink and BDSM but aren't sure where to begin, this episode is for you. Returning guest Ashley Randall (Irreverent Femme), a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and professional Dominatrix, joins us to explore what healthy, consensual kink really looks like—and why it can be a powerful path to deeper intimacy, trust, emotional connection, and personal healing. Together, we unpack common myths about BDSM, discuss how to move beyond shame and stigma, and share practical advice for anyone interested in exploring kink safely and confidently. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, this conversation offers an approachable, judgment-free introduction to building more authentic and connected relationships. In this episode, we discuss: Kink and BDSM for beginners How to get started with BDSM safely The foundations of consent, communication, and trust What it really means to be dominant or submissive Creating emotionally connected and deeply satisfying play Removing shame and stigma around kink and alternative relationship dynamics Practical tips for safe, sexy, and fulfilling exploration Various popular kinks such as cuckolding and spanking Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme, is a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and Dominatrix based in Los Angeles. Through her practice, Irreverent Love, she helps individuals and couples build confidence, deepen intimacy, and embrace the parts of themselves they've been taught to hide. Ashley is especially passionate about helping clients release shame around sexuality, BDSM, kink, and non-traditional relationship structures while creating richer relationships, stronger emotional connection, and more fulfilling sex lives. To learn more go to http://irreverentcoaching.com https://www.irreverentscents.com IG: @IrreverentLoveCoaching Come to one of our October 2026 Couples Retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Follow us on IG @shamelesssexpodcast Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 15% off our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
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