The Magnetic Muse Podcast

84. How to Choose Yourself (So You Stop Choosing People Who Don’t Choose You) with Mark Groves


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Why do we fall (and sometimes keep falling over and over again) for people who can’t fully love us back? Why do we shrink, chase, abandon ourselves, just to hold onto love that leaves us disappointed at best, and more often that not heartbroken and questing if we'll ever find a love that is healthy and lasts?

In this profoundly powerful episode, I sit down with Mark Groves—Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create The Love, and author of Liberated Love—to unpack the real reason we end up in relationships that mirror our deepest wounds. Spoiler: it all starts with the relationship you have with yourself.

Mark brings his signature truth-telling and heart to this conversation as we explore why self-abandonment feels safer than self-connection, how our attachment wounds formed, and what you actually need to do to call in a love that finally... fully chooses you back.

If you’ve ever lost yourself in love, begged for breadcrumbs, or felt stuck chasing unavailable partners—this episode will not only help you understand why, it'll help you change that narrative. Mark dives into how to heal the relationship that matters most—the one with you—so you can stop betraying yourself for love, and start choosing from wholeness and power.

We Chat:

-The four attachment styles & how they shape your love life

-Why we choose partners who replay our childhood wounds

-How to stop self-abandoning and start choosing you

-The role of co-regulation & trust cycles in healing

-Why truth is the foundation of healthy love

-How to stop choosing people who don’t choose you

-What it really means to be emotionally available

-Why self-love isn’t affirmations—it’s evidence

-How to heal your abandonment wound & reclaim your power


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The Magnetic Muse PodcastBy Jordan Laurelle Timchal