Visionary's Pursuit

85. Why Hitting Your Goals Never Feels Like Enough

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Episode Summary

I've been fascinated by the idea of potential since my late teens. For me, it has always been motivating, a possibility of what I could learn, develop, and become. But over the years, talking with friends and clients, I've heard a very different version of that word. Many people grew up hearing "you're wasting your potential," and they reference it as proof that who they are right now isn't enough.

In this episode, I want to reset that. I talk about why potential should come from desire rather than lack, why we get to choose which potential we develop instead of treating it as an obligation, and why some of our potential will go undeveloped and that's perfectly okay. I draw on the concept of the gap and the gain from 10X Is Easier Than 2X and share a story about an ultra-high achieving client who almost abandoned her vision two weeks in because of the way she was looking at her goals. Be sure to tune in, this one is a goodie.

Key Takeaways

  • Potential is a possibility, not a finish line. There will always be more we could learn or achieve, and that fact doesn't mean where we are today is wrong or that we are not good enough
  • The potential worth developing comes from desire, from what genuinely excites and matters to you, rather than from a place of lack or what others think you should be doing with your natural abilities
  • The gap and the gain describe two ways of measuring progress. Focusing on the gap, on how far you still are from the vision, breeds anxiety and a sense of falling short. Focusing on the gain, on how much you've already learned and become, builds motivation, confidence, and gratitude
  • Life is 50/50. No amount of revenue, freedom, or achievement makes the human experience permanently happy, and recognizing that takes the urgency and pressure out of chasing the next goal
  • The destination is rarely better than where you are. What makes ambition worth it is the journey and what you discover about your own strength, creativity, and capacity along the way
  • You can be fully content and proud of who you are today and still want to grow, not because here isn't enough, but because you get to keep exploring what you're capable of

    • Memorable Quotes

    "To fulfill our potential is not a place we all need to get to. It's not an end line."

    "Potential cannot be this rigid thing that we think we should be. It really has to come from our true desires."

    "That is the secret to sustain our ambition, to be able to dream bigger and to not collapse because we're just focused on the gap."

    Resources Mentioned

    • 10X Is Easier Than 2X by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy, and the concept of the gap and the gain
    • Brooke Castillo and the Life Coach School, and the idea that life is 50/50

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      Website: carozuleta.com

       

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      Visionary's PursuitBy Carolina Zuleta