Learn or Be Learned

87. Learn the #1 Thing HOLDING You Back from Success (and How to Break Through Your Fears) ft. Marsha Vanwynsberghe

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In this episode of Learn or Be Learned, host Shiva Dhanasekar and Marsha Vanwynsberghe dive into her journey of tackling family substance abuse through self-care and boundary-setting. Marsha imparts lessons on resilience and aligning with one's values, while sharing personal stories that underscore the power of direct confrontation and self-awareness in healing and personal development. Tune in for an inspiring discussion filled with actionable insights.


Summary

This episode provided valuable insights into overcoming life's challenges through self-reflection and personal growth. Guest Marsha Vanwynsberghe shared her story of dealing with teen substance abuse issues through developing self-awareness, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care over escapism. She and host Shiva Dhanasekar discussed how building both physical and mental fortitude in tandem can help one effectively address difficult emotions. They also emphasized the importance of understanding one's core values and living congruently with them in order to heal from past struggles and create the best future. Listeners learned the importance of facing issues directly through open communication and developing a strong understanding of self.


Key Take Aways

  1. Develop self-awareness through daily self-reflection on what is and isn't serving you. Check in on your feelings, values, and boundaries and make adjustments as needed.
  2. Address difficult emotions head-on rather than escaping through substances or other unhealthy coping mechanisms. Physical activity can help move emotions out of the body in 90 seconds.
  3. Gain clarity on your core values and live congruently with them by making choices that align. Understanding your true values will guide you in times of challenge or success.


    4. Meaningful Quotes

    1. "It's usually our fear of success that actually stops us, not our fear of failure. It's like it's fear of success." - Marsha Vanwynsberghe [1:05:24]
    2. "I think part of it is you have to create a new baseline of, you know, the of that zone of comfortability, you have to create a new baseline there." - Shiva Dhanasekar [1:09:53]
    3. "I think that to be very much true. And the more you build out that comfort zone as you stretch it, then all of a sudden, you start to build some trust within yourself that okay, I did this like I actually I've come I've come a ways." - Marsha Vanwynsberghe [1:10:07]
    4. "You just have to move, you just have to move. And when you have that drop-down of what you want to do. I think it's really I often call it A, you get this like a nudge from the universe." - Marsha Vanwynsberghe [1:12:39]
    5. "This episode provided valuable insights into overcoming life's challenges through self-reflection and personal growth." - Shiva Dhanasekar [1:13:16]


      6. Timestamps

      • (0:00:00) - Introduction 
      • (0:12:39) - Physical Activity and Emotions
      • (0:22:02) - Setting Boundaries 
      • (0:31:31) - Ownership and Blame
      • (0:44:28) - Support Systems
      • (0:51:07) - Difficult Emotions
      • (1:00:00) - Fear of Success 
      • (1:04:07) - Self-Sabotage
      • (1:07:02) - Comfort Zones
      • (1:09:53) - Self-Reflection
      • (1:12:39) - Following Intuition
      • (1:13:16) - Overcoming Challenges


        • Names, Materials, and Info Dropped in this Ep

        Books mentioned:

        • Stay Close by Libby Cataldi

          • Notable figures mentioned: 

          • Tony Robbins
          • Brene Brown
          • David Goggins
          • Lisa Nichols


            • Marsha Vanwynsberghe's Links

            Her Website: https://www.marshavanw.com

            Quiz on Blocks to Owning Your Story Quiz

            Her Coaching Website

            Her Book: Every Body Holds A Story


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            Thank you so much for listening, and I hope this time you invested with me provided you fruitful returns. Remember Friends, 

            "You either learn from or you're learned from!" 

            - Shiva D. 

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