Giving ultimatums in relationships is a serious, but sometimes necessary, decision. In this episode we explore the circumstances under which an ultimatum might be the right move, how to thoughtfully prepare for delivering one, and the importance of being clear and committed when standing up for your needs. Dr. Will shares his personal experience of giving an ultimatum in his first marriage and the transformative journey that followed. The discussion highlights the balance between supporting a partner's success and ensuring your own needs are met.

00:00 - Introduction to ultimatums in relationships

02:32 - Identifying when to consider an ultimatum

04:25 - Examples of when an ultimatum might be necessary

05:34 - Being for each other's success

07:30 - Dr. Will's personal story of giving an ultimatum

13:53 - Steps to prepare for giving an ultimatum

18:56 - The importance of being willing to follow through

19:39 - Planning the best scenario for delivering the ultimatum

20:18 - Getting clear about what the ultimatum specifically entails

23:48 - Setting a timeframe for the ultimatum

26:11 - Approaching the conversation with your partner

29:32 - Final thoughts and encouragement

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Resources Mentioned: 

• Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 
• Al-Anon: Resource for partners

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