Your brain can remember the past without reliving it—that’s the power of EMDR therapy. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with licensed therapist Laurel to break down what EMDR is, how it works, and why it’s become one of the most effective trauma therapies for survivors of domestic violence, PTSD, and complex trauma.

We explore how traumatic memories get “red-flagged” in the brain, why hypervigilance sticks around, and how EMDR helps your nervous system finally believe you’re safe. If EMDR has ever sounded confusing, intense, or too simple, this conversation brings together the science, the structure, and real clinical experience to make it clear and accessible.

You’ll learn:

• The eight-phase EMDR model and why preparation and resourcing are essential
• How targeting, bilateral stimulation, eye movements, alternating tones, or butterfly tapping actually reduce distress
• How negative core beliefs, body sensations, and mental imagery anchor traumatic memories
• The truth about common concerns—fatigue, headaches, medication, and myths about EMDR being hypnosis or a “quick fix”

We also dive into complex trauma and C-PTSD, including attachment-informed EMDR, parts work, and the idea of “linchpin memories” that hold entire belief systems like I’m not safe or I’m unlovable. Laurel explains why dissociation may have once protected you, how to build grounding skills that keep you present, and how simple tapping techniques can reinforce positive experiences for long-term resilience.

Whether you’re a survivor exploring trauma therapy, someone curious about EMDR, or a listener searching for a grounded next step in healing, this episode offers a clear, compassionate, and practical guide.

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Laurel’s Links: 

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/laurel-roberts-meese/

https://www.laureltherapy.net/

https://www.instagram.com/laureltherapycollective/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzmtQve6GOsJt2z9XZ02nZA

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe