In this episode, Marsha dives into one of the most charged parts of leadership and visibility: criticism. If you want to be seen, heard, and impactful, this conversation is essential listening.

Marsha breaks down why visibility is not a strategy problem, but a nervous system and identity issue. Drawing from personal experiences, client stories, and NLP principles, she explains why criticism hits so deeply, how the subconscious scans for danger, and why one negative comment can drown out fifty supportive ones if you let it.

This episode is a permission slip to stay in your lane, keep your side of the street clean, and continue rising even when others try to pull you back.

[02:05] Why visibility is nervous system work, not just strategy

[04:40] A personal story of being harshly judged and the moment everything shifted

[06:30] Why criticism hurts most when it mirrors something unhealed inside you

[08:20] The truth about judgment: it’s never actually about you

[10:15] Collaboration vs criticism and why your circle shapes your expansion

[12:45] You will never be criticized by someone who has done what you’re doing

[15:05] How the brain’s threat system fixates on one negative voice

[17:10] Choosing to focus on truth instead of emotional noise

[19:40] The “sides of the street” metaphor and staying in your values

[23:55] Boosters on a rocket and why some people are not meant to come with you

[28:10] Keeping your side of the street clean, regardless of how others behave

[31:30] A reminder not to shrink, because your voice is meant to help someone

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

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