Do one of you like your home clean and organized but the other could care less? Does the majority of household clean up fall on one of you, while the other is mostly contributing to the mess? If you and your partner have conflicts around differences in cleanliness standards at home, this episode is for you! We share our own struggles in this area and what we’ve done to become more aligned in keeping a household environment that feels good to both of us. We offer insights to help couples navigate and resolve conflicts over cleanliness and organization in their shared living spaces.

“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.

(00:28) - Couple’s misalignments in household cleanliness and organization

(03:47) - Gender roles and cultural Influences for household work

(06:23) - Dealing with different cleaning habits in a relationship

(07:47) - The pain of subordination and built up resentments 

(10:26) - Finding middle ground as a couple 

(12:12) - How to communicate with your partner about cleanliness

(17:10 - How to align on cleanliness standards in a relationship

(20:22) - Staying Connected as a Team

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Resources Mentioned: 

• Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 

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