Learn or Be Learned

99. Use These Conversation Hacks to WIN Friends and INFLUENCE People

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Tune in to hear Shiva Dhana dive deeply into his perspective on using empathy, active listening, and subtle social skills to form powerful connections with others, sharing fascinating stories from his own experiences that are sure to provide valuable lessons on how to build trust and unlock new opportunities.


Summary

In this insightful episode, Shiva Dhana discusses the importance of building genuine rapport and trust with others through empathy, active listening and remembering small details like names. He shares how these subtle social skills have allowed him to form deep connections and even enter exclusive circles. Listeners will walk away with practical strategies for positively influencing how people perceive and respond to them in both their personal and professional lives.


Key Takeaways

  1. The power of empathy, curiosity, and genuine interest in others - By focusing the conversation on the other person and what interests them, you can form stronger bonds and make them feel valued.
  2. Simple acts like smiling, remembering names, and active listening go a long way - These subtle social cues signal friendliness and boost rapport.
  3. Connections are about how you make people feel, not just what you say - Prioritizing others' emotions through empathy and positivity can help you achieve more success in both relationships and career opportunities.


    4. Noteworthy Quotes

    "People don't actually remember what's being said in a conversation, they will only remember how you made them feel." - Shiva Dhanasekar [0:07:05]

    • This quote emphasizes that genuine connections are built more through empathy and positive emotions than just information exchange.

      • "It's about how you make somebody feel in the interaction more so than what's being said." - Shiva Dhanasekar [0:07:05]

      • Dhanasekar reiterates here the importance of prioritizing others' feelings over superficial conversation content.

        • "I've noticed that ability for people just to feel comfortable and share not just information, but I've also had people give me, you know how it is in your 20s you're trying to make a financially, it's difficult. And you're struggling, you're trying especially for any of you out there that are risk takers, or entrepreneurs or business-minded folks, you know, that finances can always be a tight stretch in this room." - Shiva Dhanasekar [0:00:29-0:01:00]

        • This quote provides an example of how Dhanasekar's ability to connect with others through empathy has opened doors for him both personally and professionally.


          • Names, Materials, and Info Dropped in this Ep.

          People Mentioned: 

          • Dale Carnegie - Author of the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" which was referenced multiple times in the episode.
          • Jay Shetty - Modern thought leader whose book "Think Like a Monk" was referenced as also discussing the importance of not criticizing or complaining.
          • Joe Rogan - Popular podcast host who was mentioned as endorsing the supplement brand Magic Mind.


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            Timestamps

            (00:00:00) - Introduction

            (0:00:29) - Deep Connections

            (0:07:05) - Prioritizing Emotions 

            (0:17:06) - Forming Bonds

            (0:18:41) - Final Thoughts


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            Remember Friends,

            "You either learn from or you're learned from!"

            -Shiva D.

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