Returning to a discussion of a new reality, Selfishly need to be talking about Milo and challenges arising in the wake of Milo's death, Challenges learning about the successes and failures of Milo's friends, Not learning would be worse, No such thing as life without pain, Greater feeling, expression, and appreciation as a result, Knowing you will have support provides comfort, Importance of an engagement that is quiet and listens, The Compassionate Friends, Memorial Sloan Kettering, Experiencing death providing a super power, Things that are equal parts wonderful and heartbreaking, What can possibly counterbalance the death of a child?, Colin Campbell Finding the Words, Emotional v. physical pain and how it is addressed, Different bereaved families want different things, Tell me about a person you have lost, We need openness and recognition, We need recognition of the depth, ubiquity, and permanence of the loss, Nick Billings, Maddie Billings, Jake Tapper, Brokenness creates space and openness, Recognition of brokenness creates openness, Milo is on our minds all the time, If you mention Milo's name you may make me emotional but if you don't you will break my heart