I've got a confession to make. It's been in my heart to start a men's group for years and I've failed. I've participated in men's groups and I've attempted to begin some in the past but I've failed in sustaining them. There was a stint where I was able to get something going for a little while, but then it died down. It's been frustrating. It's been discouraging. But it's been a learning experience too.

I believe I know why.

I believe I'm ready to create the one group I've always envisioned.

I believe I'm ready this time.

First, let me tell you why I've failed.

I've failed because I haven't been clear with myself as to why I want to create this community. So whenever I've managed to speak to someone about it, I was trying to sell them on something I think they would like. I was trying to cater to them. The truth of the matter is, if a men's group is going to be successful, I need to understand my inner why. And I just never did that work. I went into recruitment mode without doing that work.

I've failed because I've fallen into the same trap of people pleasing. I care that people might think I'm a failure because I didn't successfully sustain my participation and creation of previous men's groups. I've cared that they might think I'm a fraud. I've bought into the narrative that I'm not qualified to lead a men's group.

I've failed because I was afraid that people might pigeonhole me into just being a men's coach and I won't be able to have 1:1 clients of all sex and genders, like I do now.

I'm afraid my current clients, who are not men, will end their coaching partnership with me.

I've failed because I wasn't serving the men in the proximity of my inner circle. My brothers, my closest friends, my family.

I've failed because I played small and didn't hold back. Full stop.

Now, let me tell you why I won't fail again.

I won't fail again because I've done the work. I've been in therapy. I've been coached. I've spent more time building my skills. I've spent more time investing in myself. I have more experience now. I've learned.

I won't fail again because I've reframed the definition of failure. To fail means I've tried. To fail means I've played full out. To fail means I was willing to play and I'll keep playing until the thing that wants to emerge in this desire to create a men's group will actually come true. And it's not because I'm forcing it to happen. It's because I'm giving it space and simply allowing it to happen.

I won't fail again because I'll be clear on what this men's group will be truly about. See here>

I won't fail again because I won't try to sell this to anyone time. I will be bold in my declaration of what it's about and be humble in my invitation. The men who are ready will say YES. The men who are not will say NOT RIGHT NOW. Both are okay.

I won't fail again because I will follow through. One conversation and one invitation at a time.

The WHY of this men's group.

I'm tired of watching good men forget their purpose. I'm tired of watching myself forget my purpose.

I'm tired of watching good men play small in their relationship with money. I'm tired of watching myself play small in my relationship with money.

I'm tired of watching good men fall into traps of what society has conditioned them that sex and intimacy ought to be. We didn't have a blueprint for this. It's time to create one together; rooted in love, more awareness and grace.

I'm tired of watching good men show up as their lesser selves at work and at home. I was tired of being this way and I've done the work. I can show others the way. If we create a safe container to dump all our s**t into, then our work, our partners, our families will get the best versions of us.

I'm tired of watching good men believe that they can walk through this life alone. We can achieve greater things together.

A bold and humble request to my readers.

I need your help. Creating this men's group is a big and bold mission for me. There is no way I can do this alone and again, I am in need of your help!

If you are reading this and you are interested in joining my men's group, the first thing you need to know is that the men's group will be STRICTLY 100% CONFIDENTIAL. NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW WHAT IS DISCUSSED IN THE GROUP. EVERYTHING STAYS IN THE GROUP. Similar to Fight Club rules, but there will definitely be no fighting LOL. Our men's group will be a more healthy expression of our masculinity.

The second thing you need to know is it will be FUN. Lots and lots and lots of FUN. You will miss out on the most FUN you've ever had in your life.

The third thing you need to know is that it will require an investment of both time & money. This is how we know that the members of the group are serious about the work.

Okay.

So if you've made it this far and you're interested in joining, here is my request...

* Read this page for more info and a general roadmap. It's not complete but it will give you a glimpse of what to expect. It will help you get clear if this men's group is for you (or not for you). It will help you understand the commitment we'll require of you. It will you help you understand if you're ready (or not ready).

* If you are ready to throw your name in the ring, please fill out this application. Serious inquiries only please. Take the time to answer the questions. I will read all responses and I will reach out to connect if I find that we are in alignment.

If you are reading this and you know someone who might be interested, I humbly and boldly request that you send this newsletter to them. Connect with your heart and tell them what made you think of sending this newsletter their way. If you've got questions for me before sending, simply reply to this newsletter and I'm happy to have a dialogue.

Finally, thank you. Thank you for continuing to journey with me. Thank you for giving me your precious time in reading this today. Thank you for being with me in spirit as I boldly take this step. Notes of encouragement are welcomed!!!

Love.

Jomar

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