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If you’ve ever felt shut out, overruled or pushed aside by an ex who controls everything, this episode will speak straight to your heart. Alice shares the reality of loving a stepchild while navigating an ex-partner who refuses to accept her role — and a little girl stuck painfully in the middle.

In this episode, Katie talks to Alice* — a stepmum who vowed never to date a man with children, but fell in love with a dad of a five-year-old and has spent the last four years riding the stepmum rollercoaster.

Alice has a caring, connected relationship with her stepdaughter, but has struggled enormously with her partner’s ex holding a huge amount of control over all of their lives. She shares how hard it has been to have no say, no influence, and no acknowledgement — and how the loyalty binds placed on her stepdaughter have shaped their relationship.

This episode is an honest, grounded look at what happens when an ex dominates the dynamic, and how stepmums are often left carrying invisible emotional burdens.

Not her real name.

In This Episode We Explore:

• What it’s like when an ex controls the rhythm of your life
• How loyalty binds put children in impossible positions
• Why stepmums often feel invisible or overridden
• The pain of loving a child you’re not allowed to fully show up for
• How control dynamics impact the couple relationship
• The emotional toll of having “no say” in your own home
• Why support and validation matter so much for stepmums

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Keywords:
controlling ex, stepmum feeling shut out, loyalty binds, stepmum support, struggling stepmum, blended family tensions, stepmum boundaries, co-parenting challenges, stepmum podcast, emotional support for stepmums, stepdaughter caught in the middle

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Stepmum Space website: https://stepmumspace.com

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1:1 Coaching & Couples Coaching: https://stepmumspace.com

You deserve space, respect and emotional safety — even in the hardest dynamics.

Ready for structured support?

If you’re living with anticipatory anxiety before contact, walking on eggshells at home, or constantly replaying conversations long after they’ve happened, Back in Control is my structured programme for stepmums navigating complex stepfamily dynamics.

It’s designed to help you move out of chronic vigilance and into steadiness inside your own home.

Learn more:
 www.stepmumspace.com/back-in-control

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