A Deeper Us

Ask Dr. Gina

What happens when one of you prays every morning and the other isn’t sure anyone is listening? Or when you grew up in different faiths, different churches, or different ideas about what God expects from a marriage?

In this episode of A Deeper Us, we talk about how couples can share a spiritual life even when they don’t share every belief. We explore why prayer can feel so vulnerable between partners, how pressure to “get on the same page” can push couples further apart, and what it looks like to make room for each other’s faith without losing your own.

You’ll hear practical ways to pray together (or simply sit together in a sacred moment) that honor both of you, how to talk about faith differences without it turning into a debate, and how to protect your connection when spiritual conversations get tender.

Whether you’re newly married, years in, or navigating a shift in belief, this conversation is an invitation to go deeper with the person beside you

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

Ever watched your partner react to something small like it was something huge? Or felt your own reaction come out of nowhere? Sometimes the fight happening today started long before you met. In this episode, Dr. Regina Ransom talks about how past wounds from family, old relationships, and painful experiences can quietly shape the way we love, and answers some of the questions she hears most from couples living with it. 

You'll learn: 

• Signs the past is driving reactions in your relationship
• Where these patterns come from, and why the body remembers
• Answers to real-life questions, like "How long do I have to pay for what someone else did?"
• What the partner carrying the past, and the partner beside them, can each do
• A simple "then and now" conversation to try this week

Have a question about love or marriage? Send it through Fan Mail and it may be answered on a future episode. Learn more at adeeperus.com.
 
A Deeper Us is for education and encouragement and is not a substitute for counseling. If you are in danger, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If you are in crisis, call or text 988.
 

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

Everyone celebrates the homecoming. Few people talk about the weeks after, when two people who love each other suddenly feel like strangers. In this episode, Dr. Regina Ransom, a U.S. Navy veteran, talks about what really happens to military couples after deployment, and how both partners can find their way back to each other.

You'll learn:

• Why reintegration is often harder than the deployment itself
• How roles, routines, kids, and intimacy shift after time apart
• What the service member and the partner at home each need
• Signs it's more than adjustment, and where to get support
• A simple "reintroduction" conversation to reconnect this week

Have a question about love or marriage? Send it through Fan Mail and it may be answered on a future episode. Learn more at adeeperus.com.

A Deeper Us is for education and encouragement and is not a substitute for counseling. If you are a veteran or service member in crisis, dial 988 and press 1, or text 838255. Military OneSource: 800-342-9647.

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

When we think about infidelity, we usually think about another person. But some of the deepest betrayals in marriage happen through a hidden credit card, a secret account, or debt nobody talked about. In this episode, Dr. Regina Ransom talks about financial infidelity: what it is, why people hide money from the person they love, and how couples can rebuild trust after a money secret comes out.

You'll learn:

• What counts as financial infidelity, and what doesn't
• The fears and money stories that drive financial secrets
• Six steps to rebuilding trust after discovery
• A simple "money date" to start honest conversations this week

Have a question about love or marriage? Send it through Fan Mail and it may be answered on a future episode. Learn more at adeeperus.com.

A Deeper Us is for education and encouragement and is not a substitute for counseling or financial advice. If money is being used to control you, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

Feeling irritable, exhausted, foggy, or just not like yourself, and wondering what's happening to you and your marriage? You're not imagining it. In this episode, Dr. Regina Ransom talks about perimenopause, the years-long hormonal transition before menopause, and the quiet ways it can show up as distance and conflict between partners. 

You'll learn: 

• What perimenopause is and when it usually begins
• How sleep, mood, desire, and body changes affect the relationship
• What she needs, and what he can do instead of taking it personally
• A simple check-in to help you face this season as a team

In this season? Send your question through Fan Mail and it may be answered on a future episode. Learn more at adeeperus.com.
 

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

What even is a couples intensive, and is it right for you? It's the question Dr. Regina Ransom hears more than any other, so in this episode she walks you through it honestly, including the parts people are nervous to ask about. 

Weekly sessions can leave couples just opening up when the hour ends. An intensive gives you focused time to get underneath the pattern, understand your story, and leave with a real plan forward. 

You'll learn: 

• How an intensive differs from weekly counseling
• Who intensives are designed for, and who they're not
• What the days actually look like, from start to finish
• Honest answers to the most common fears: "Will it be too much?" "What if we fight?" "What if one of us isn't sure?"

If something in this episode made you think "that's us," visit adeeperus.com to explore intensives and book a free consult.
 
Have a question about love or marriage? Send it through Fan Mail and it may be answered on a future episode.
 
A Deeper Us is for education and encouragement and is not a substitute for counseling.
 

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

Do you and your partner keep having the same fight, just with different details? It might not be about the dishes, the phone, or being late. It might be the dance.

In this episode, Dr. Regina Ransom breaks down one of the most common patterns couples get stuck in: one partner pursues, pushing to talk and fix it now, while the other withdraws, going quiet and pulling away. The harder one chases, the further the other retreats, and both end up feeling alone.

You'll learn:

• How to tell whether you're the pursuer or the withdrawer
• The fears hiding underneath each role
• Why the same fight keeps coming back
• A simple tool to pause the dance and come back to each other

The cycle is the enemy, not your partner. Listen together, and talk about which part of the dance feels familiar.

Have a question about love or marriage? Send it through Fan Mail and it may be answered on a future episode. Learn more at adeeperus.com.

A Deeper Us is for education and encouragement and is not a substitute for counseling.

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com

Ask Dr. Gina

You can have the house, the kids, the routines, and the photos that look perfect, and still feel like you’re just existing together. That quiet kind of distance is common in long-term relationships, and it’s also the reason so many couples wait too long to ask for help. We start with a simple story about a couple who “aren’t fighting” but have slowly drifted into roommate mode, then we name what drifting really costs: emotional closeness, warmth, and the sense that you’re on the same team.

I bring my perspective from decades of marriage and years of couples therapy work, and I share the idea that changes everything for sustained intimacy: it’s not only about communicating better or handling conflict better, it’s about learning to fall in love again as you both evolve. The person you married at 27 is not the same person at 37, 47, or 57, and connection requires updating how you see each other, especially through busy seasons like raising kids, building careers, and carrying stress.

We also go beneath the usual relationship advice and get to the root causes that drive most recurring arguments. Many “small” fights about dishes, lateness, or tone are really about a deeper question: Am I safe with you? Do I matter to you? Will you be there when I really need you? You’ll leave with a practical prompt to try today: “When did you last feel really close to me?” Listen with your partner, share this with someone who needs a reset, and subscribe, rate, and review so more couples can keep choosing each other.

Not sure where your relationship stands? Take the free 3-minute quiz: Are We Stuck, or Starting Over? https://nbfc-couples-quiz.netlify.app/

Ready to reconnect? The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, 15 minutes a day for couples: https://stan.store/newbirthfamilycounseling/p/the-30day-reconnection-plan

Want months of progress in days? Learn about private couples intensives with Dr. Ransom at adeeperus.com