A Forged Life

The Long, Slow Work of Becoming

Meaningful things take time. But in a world that expects everything to happen quickly, it can be difficult to trust the process of becoming.

In this episode of The Forged Life, Kevin reflects on the phrase, “God has my becoming,” and what it means to participate in our own formation while trusting that we don’t have to control every outcome. Drawing from the process of forging knives, he explores the difference between being stuck and being formed, the wisdom that comes with time, and the importance of recognizing what we can influence and what we must learn to accept.

Rather than offering easy answers, Kevin invites you to sit with three questions about your own life, your growth, and the work that is unfolding in you.

Because meaningful work takes time. And sometimes the most important thing we can do is keep showing up—strong, faithful, and courageous.

Keep forging forward.

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What if the things we don’t know about ourselves are shaping our lives just as much as the things we do?

In this episode of A Forged Life, Kevin Perido explores the Johari Window, a simple but powerful framework for understanding ourselves and how we relate to others. Developed by psychologists Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham in 1955, the model identifies four areas of our lives: the open, hidden, blind spot, and unknown.

Through personal stories and reflections, Kevin explores how vulnerability helps us bring hidden things into the light, how trusted relationships reveal our blind spots, and how the unknown can both unsettle us and open the door to unexpected growth. He also reflects on the importance of intentional community, especially when life changes and the relationships we once relied on no longer happen naturally.

For coaches, counselors, clergy, leaders, and anyone who walks alongside others, this episode is an invitation to do our own work before helping others do theirs. Because forging a life of greater wholeness requires us to embrace vulnerability, welcome honest feedback, build relationships rooted in trust, and make peace with what we cannot yet know.

We cannot forge our lives alone. And sometimes, what we discover along the way is far different—and far better—than what we originally imagined.

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

Join us on the journey.

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What we invest our love in ultimately becomes the life we live. In this episode, Kevin reflects on the Mumford & Sons lyric, “Where you invest your love, you invest your life,” and explores four questions: Who are you investing in? Where are you investing? What are you investing in? And why? Through stories of family, knife making, coaching, community, and faith, Kevin invites us to pay attention to where our time, attention, passion, and purpose are actually going—and to intentionally forge the life we want to live.

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

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Who we believe we are and how we actually behave aren’t always the same thing.

In this episode of A Forged Life, Kevin explores the gap between identity and behavior—and what that gap can reveal about us. From the way we remember September 11th and other defining moments, to the ways we identify ourselves by our beliefs, values, and past actions, Kevin asks a challenging question: Does the way we behave actually align with who we say we are?

Using the Johari Window, the difference between orthodoxy and orthopraxy, and a personal story about his son, Kevin explores blind spots, reacting versus responding, and the danger of allowing our past behavior to define our identity.

The goal isn't perfection. It's alignment.

Sometimes forging a life means slowing down, noticing the gap, and choosing—right now—to behave like the person we most want to become.

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

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I continue to explore identity.    I invite you to do the same.

Kevin

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What happens when the role that has defined most of your adult life is no longer the role you occupy?

In this deeply personal episode of A Forged Life, Kevin wrestles in real time with questions of identity, calling, and transition nearly two years after leaving pastoral ministry. After 25 years as a pastor, who is he now—and who is he apart from what he does?

Kevin explores the difference between essence and expression: the distinction between who we are at our core and the roles, work, and purposes through which that identity is expressed. Along the way, three unexpected conversations—including one with an artist who told him, “Something must have been in you for this to come out”—force him to reconsider what it means to be called, to change, and to become.

This isn't an episode with a neat conclusion. It's a snapshot of someone wrestling with the question many of us eventually face: Have I confused what I do with who I am?

If you're navigating a career change, leaving a long-held role, questioning your calling, or simply wondering what lies beneath the titles you carry, this conversation is an invitation to wrestle with your own identity—and to consider what is being forged within you.

The episode explicitly frames the conversation as a snapshot of Kevin's own wrestling with identity and invites listeners into their own questions about what they're becoming. 

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

Join us on the journey.

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In this episode I propose there are 4 things everyone has:

1.  gift/gifts

2.  experience 

3.  ability to listen and learn

4.   ability to get better results than you are currently getting

We dive into it.

Kevin 

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

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Conact me:

email:   [email protected]

website:  kevinparido.com 

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

Join us on the journey.

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A bit of my story - what it looks like for me to walk through IT and in IT.

Pep talk - what you can do when you are in IT

If you need help and coaching, here is how to contact me:

email:   [email protected] 

website:  Kevinparido.com 

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

Join us on the journey.

Email:   [email protected]
Website:  www.worthplacecollective.com
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These tools will help you as you help people.  

Here are the 4 main points:

1. Seeing everyone as a person that has potential and possibility 
2. Be curious, not judgmental - resist autobiographical listening
3. People need space and place - coaching is about creating and holding space for another person 
4. These are all built on a person has worth - 

You can reach me at:

[email protected] 

www.kevinparido.com 

INTO the Forge - https://www.shepherdsforge.com/about-4

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The WorthPlace Collective is about creating and holding place for people to more fully experience their worth.   

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