THE BIBLE AND GRIEF
Death and grieving are mentioned often in the Bible. In the Old Testament, we see for example, Jacob mourning over the loss of Joseph and refusing to be comforted, David grieving over the anticipated loss of his infant son and the tragic end of his grown sons; Amnon and Absalom in battle, Prophet Eli was engulfed with grieve that lead to his sad end upon the news of his sons’ death on the battle field, and Jeremiah lamenting the death of King Josiah.
Especially moving is David’s grief when he learns that his closest friend, Jonathan, had died in battle.
While we mourn our loved ones periodically, we should leverage on such an opportunity to rather appreciate God than shutting the doors of our broken lives against His unmatched kindness.
But what does the Bible have to say about grief?
Firstly, God want us to find hope in our grief. While there are millions of people who find it difficult to believe in the afterlife, because for them, there is no hope for the future and death is the end of a relationship forever. But for the Christian who knows God, death is not the end of existence; it is the beginning of life eternal. God expects that those who understand His will and purpose for mankind with regards to the afterlife, should find hope amidst their grief.
The hope of meeting Jesus face to face and seeing Him just as He is (Revelation 22.4; 1 John 3.2) and we shall meet with those who have gone on before us (1 Thessalonians 4.13-14; Revelation 21.4).
Secondly, Grief is essential in the Christians’ life because it help us to reflect on how fleeting our days are. James describes it as “a vapor that vanishes away” and the Psalmist equate life to grass. Grief can connect us to the heart of God. Psalm 34.18 says “the LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit”. In our grief, we can as well learn surrender. Not trying to strike God against His will. Job becomes a perfect example when he said:
“Then Job arose, tore his robe, and shaved his head; and he fell to the ground and worshiped. And he said: Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return there. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD” Job1.21
Conclusion: going through grief is not as easy as it may appear. If Job could asked those identity questions in his storms, and many others challenged the decision then, we too can ask. But, while we are asking, we should be reminded that despite all of Job’s questions, he was able to settle for God’s perfect response.