A Little Death

It’s Season 2 of A Little Death. New episodes coming soon 😎

Karley Sciortino’s “Slutever” empire and Joe Swanberg’s Netflix show, “Easy,” remind us that not all bad sex encounters are existentially and forever bad or damaging. There’s a “good” kind of bad that we tolerate in so many parts of our lives, but we don’t always extend that trial-and-error tolerance to our sex lives. Sciortino, Swanberg, and I (lol presumptuous) are here to tell you that there’s “good” bad sex that’s important and necessary.

There’s an art to having a regular rotation of non-partner partners that you aren’t in a committed relationship with. Enter the Koi Pond metaphor—instead of thinking about “plenty of fish in the sea” that you wade through to find your one perfect person, the Koi Pond is all about catching and releasing babes in non-exclusive setups. If you don’t want a committed partner and you don’t want a series of No-Term Relationships (which I talk about in earlier episodes), but you *do* want to be having sex, then you’re kind of in a Koi Pond situation by default. Here are some tips for maintaining your pond. 😘

Ok, real talk: do you ever get confused and maybe a little bit concerned about what turns you on? Let’s talk about it.

This week’s story about Aziz Ansari brings up issues about consent and agency: how to establish consent and increase your own sexual agency. To do that, we can learn a lot from sex parties. Listen on.

Meet my personal sex and relationships hero: Esther Perel. Her work is globally influential and the conversations she drives can help give you a framework for exploring your own sexuality and desires.

No-Term Relationships are casual, one-time encounters conducted with kindness and self-awareness in a way that integrates the act into your everyday lifestyle. Part 1 describes what these relationships can be and why they’re valuable. In Part 2, we talk about how to make it happen. Listen to learn how to find and have No-Term Relationships like a pro.

Let’s talk about casual encounters. “No Strings Attached” sex might work for some, but there are other options. I call them “No-Term Relationships.” In Part 1 of this episode, let’s get into the difference between the two and talk about how even one hour sexual encounters can be acted out with care.

Give yourself a permission slip to think, fantasize, explore, and try something new. It’s not easy, but sweet babes: it’s worth it.

When the zeitgeist is trash and you can hardly take off someone’s pants without thinking of the patriarchy, how can women enjoy sex? I suggest a FMM threesome, but you do you, babes. 💜