I share why believing you’re somehow behind where you’re supposed to be is not the motivator that you think it is. Sitting in this belief deeply affects our emotions and our actions, so I’m giving you some alternative thoughts you can try on, reassuring you that, wherever you are right now, that’s exactly where you’re meant to be, and you can move forward from there.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/261

261: A Love Letter to Those Who Feel Behind

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 Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action  Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience.  This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life.  Talking Points:  00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth  Quotes:  "People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things."  "I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option."  "What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?"  "It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling."  "Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are."  "There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves."  "It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%."  Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial     

386: The Decision Switch

 From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs  To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward.  Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.   Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives.  Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention.  Talking Points:  01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change  07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions   Quotes:  "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer."  "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life."  "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you."  "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax."  "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial          

385: How to Get Unstuck

 How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image  Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space   00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes   00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences   00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image   00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image   00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space   Quotes:  "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments."  "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world."  "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way."  "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial        

384: The Psychology of Space

 From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe  To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering. Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset. Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset.  Talking Points:  03:02 Personal style transformation. 05:04 Choosing thoughts intentionally. 10:35 Upgrading your thoughts. 16:15 Couture thoughts. 20:45 Thoughts about myself. 22:11 Embracing Your Uniqueness. 29:44 Thoughts about money. 32:56 Money mindset transformation. 38:51 Life as a game. 42:59 Feeling bad cannot stop magic. 45:09 Thoughts on love and relationships. 48:46 The Royal Treatment.  Quotes:  "Girl, I am feeling like yesterday's fries."  "I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters."  "Money is fun, which is in my thought closet. And money doesn't solve the problems that people are trying to use money to solve the problem for."  "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon."  "It was a thought that I decided to return, and I upgraded for a better thought." Useful Resources:   The Royal Treatment Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL   Join the membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh     Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial      

383: Shop My Thought Closet

 Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care  Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed. The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth.  Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment   00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect   00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care   00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care   00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy   00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature   00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom   00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop   Quotes:  "When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?"  "Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities."  "I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you."  "Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins."  "It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life." Useful Resources:     The Royal Treatment Workshop:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL     Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

261: A Love Letter to Those Who Feel Behind

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