A Man Isn't A Plan

In this episode, we talk about how easy it is to internalize someone else’s behavior in dating and walk away believing we weren’t enough. We also lay down a clear line: relationships should feel emotionally safe, aligned with our values, and supportive of the life we’re building.

In this episode, we discuss about:

• Internalizing a partner’s actions as a verdict on our worth
• How criticism and “too much accountability” erode confidence
• The difference between helpful feedback and superficial nitpicking
• Beauty industry conditioning and porn-driven expectations shaping attraction
• Objectification, entitlement, and why a woman’s body is not public property
• Racism, sexism, and hardline values that determine when we walk away
• Emotional labor, disconnection from self, and why divorce can be healthy

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We share our experiences inside of abortion, pregnancy loss, and how sharing the “bottom of the ocean” moments can reduce shame and help other women feel less alone. We also talk about boundaries, performative vulnerability, and what feminism and patriarchy is and isn’t.

*Trigger Warning: mentions about abortion and pregnancy loss

In this episode, we discuss about:

• Janne getting pregnant during a major life restart and her choice to have an abortion.
• Writing and sharing the article on her emotional process that led to her choice to have an abortion and the backlash (being called a murderer by her first boyfriend and man she slept with who was Christian) as well as the 400+ comments and messages from women confiding in her for the first time about their abortions. 
• Hannah’s pregnancy loss and the shock of a life path changing overnight.
• Our capacity to feel joy as a deeper emotional spectrum after experiencing deep loss.
• Why it can feel safer to be vulnerable with strangers than close friends.
• Telling your truth without exposing someone else’s truth.
• Discussing what patriarchy means and doesn’t mean. Being against a system built by men, not anti-men and the importance of feminism past and present tense for women to have equality and choice.

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In the first episode, we tell the real origin story behind starting A Man Isn’t A Plan and why the fastest way back to self-trust is saying the truth out loud. We unpack shame, dating fatigue, and what “boy sober” actually means when you still want love but refuse to lose yourself to get it. 

• The moment a relationship pulls you away from your identity and values 
• The difference between attachment wounds and a dynamic that creates insecurity 
• Why telling another woman the full truth dissolves shame 
• Making room for nontraditional lives as independent women without shaming traditional choices 
• Redefining happiness so partnership is not your whole plate 
• What boy sober means and what it doesn’t mean for us
• The importance of kindness, play, and being not just supported but celebrated by men as new relationship standards 
• Where Janne and Hannah are at right now with dating, celibacy, dating apps.
• What “Clean heart sheets” means and taking the time you actually need after a relationship ends to tend your heart.

Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/

Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay