Divorce Dialogues

A Me-First Approach to Dating After Divorce with Bernadette Smith


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So, you’re ready to start dating again after divorce, but you don’t want to make the same mistakes as last time. How can you do an autopsy on your marriage to understand what worked and what didn’t? How can you get clear on who YOU are and what you’re looking for in a partner? How can you find a compatible connection and then establish a loving relationship that lasts?
Bernadette Smith is the creator of Compatible Connections, a boutique coaching firm that specializes in helping divorced women become confident, conscious daters. With 10-plus years of experience as a certified dating and relationship expert, Bernadette is dedicated to helping every woman she works with find the love of her life after divorce.
On this episode of the podcast, Bernadette joins Katherine to explain how she defines compatibility and what you can do to screen for it before a first date. She shares the importance of getting clear on who you are and what you want in a relationship, offering insight on how to partner with yourself FIRST. Bernadette also addresses online dating, giving her top tips for avoiding scams and discussing how she supports clients every step of the way. Listen in to understand how to identify the character traits you want in a partner and learn how regular relationship checkups can keep your partnership growing!
Topics Covered
The definition of compatibility and how to screen for it
The value in doing an autopsy on your marriage
Why it’s crucial to get clear on your reason for dating
Bernadette’s insight on partnering with yourself first
Bernadette’s approach to regular relationship checkups
What I love about you is…
When you … I feel …, and I would like …
Identifying the character traits you want in a partner
Good connecting questions to ask potential partners
How Bernadette supports clients in online dating
Bernadette’s advice around online dating
Never give phone number to stranger
Create separate email address
Bernadette’s take on the basis of a loving relationship
Respect, honesty, trust and communication
Connect with Bernadette Smith
Compatible Connections: https://compatibleconnections.biz/
Connect with Katherine Miller
The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
Call (914) 738-7765
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